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HELP!! What Is Going On??!!

Unread postby ARTN2026 » 8 April 2021, 22:02

So here is my issue....

A few months ago a friend of mine and his partner of 6 years broke up. It was due to my friends cheating behavior and secret profiles online. His partner and I caught on to his ways about the same time. The partner and I were friends, but not that close. When I would travel to see them, It got to where I enjoyed seeing the partner more than my friend bc we had more in common and enjoyed talking, laughing and going to do things. Once the friend was caught, the partner and I compared notes and I was able to help him through the difficult moments of the breakup. We became pretty close! Probably closer than I was with my friend.

This is where it gets a little odd....

Through this, our conversations went many directions. We shared more about ourselves, we told jokes, stories... great conversation. He would start sending pics... no "dick picks" put pics to leave a lot to the imagination. Like leading me up to the edge but not showing. I started the same. Pics like he would send me I would send back, or just a random selfie he would "heart" it in the text. He "hearts" everything I post on Facebook. We have even talked abut masturbation... we have more or less done it together through text. Not like sexting but we both knew what we were doing.

He talks about another guy that he hooked up with 2 or 3 times within the last month before the guy moved. I think they still text daily.. He chats some with a guy on grindr that lives near him but nothing like they hooking up.. but I cant confirm that. We talk on the phone for HOURS! I mean like 3, 4, or even a few nights ago 6 hours. He texts me good morning every day... he checks in during the work day. He refers to me as "friend" in texts... He has said something recently like he likes to become friends with a guy first and then see if more was to happen... Is that a hint? In the last few months I have caught some serious feelings for him. I can not stop thinking about him. I have fantasies of us being together... both sexually and in a real relationship. Y'all... I have major feelings for him! I am so scared of rejection and cant tell him... Sometimes I think he may have some feelings developing too, then he will mention the guy that moved that he text him or whatever... So I have no idea! He is wanting me to come visit him and I do plan on doing it soon.

Could there be something there on his side, too? Am I wishful thinking? We are 700 miles apart which SUCKS!!! Any thoughts?
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Help! What is going on??!!

Unread postby ARTN2026 » 9 April 2021, 03:26

So here is my issue....

A few months ago a friend of mine and his partner of 6 years broke up. It was due to my friends cheating behavior and secret profiles online. His partner and I caught on to his ways about the same time. The partner and I were friends, but not that close. When I would travel to see them, It got to where I enjoyed seeing the partner more than my friend bc we had more in common and enjoyed talking, laughing and going to do things. Once the friend was caught, the partner and I compared notes and I was able to help him through the difficult moments of the breakup. We became pretty close! Probably closer than I was with my friend.

This is where it gets a little odd....

Through this, our conversations went many directions. We shared more about ourselves, we told jokes, stories... great conversation. He would start sending pics... no "dick picks" put pics to leave a lot to the imagination. Like leading me up to the edge but not showing. I started the same. Pics like he would send me I would send back, or just a random selfie he would "heart" it in the text. He "hearts" everything I post on Facebook. We have even talked abut masturbation... we have more or less done it together through text. Not like sexting but we both knew what we were doing.

He talks about another guy that he hooked up with 2 or 3 times within the last month before the guy moved. I think they still text daily.. He chats some with a guy on grindr that lives near him but nothing like they hooking up.. but I cant confirm that. We talk on the phone for HOURS! I mean like 3, 4, or even a few nights ago 6 hours. He texts me good morning every day... he checks in during the work day. He refers to me as "friend" in texts... He has said something recently like he likes to become friends with a guy first and then see if more was to happen... Is that a hint? In the last few months I have caught some serious feelings for him. I can not stop thinking about him. I have fantasies of us being together... both sexually and in a real relationship. Y'all... I have major feelings for him! I am so scared of rejection and cant tell him... Sometimes I think he may have some feelings developing too, then he will mention the guy that moved that he text him or whatever... So I have no idea! He is wanting me to come visit him and I do plan on doing it soon.

Could there be something there on his side, too? Am I wishful thinking? We are 700 miles apart which SUCKS!!! Any thoughts?
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Help?! What’s going on?!

Unread postby ARTN2026 » 9 April 2021, 16:50

Help! What is going on??!!

by ARTN2026 » Yesterday, 22:26

So here is my issue....

A few months ago a friend of mine and his partner of 6 years broke up. It was due to my friends cheating behavior and secret profiles online. His partner and I caught on to his ways about the same time. The partner and I were friends, but not that close. When I would travel to see them, It got to where I enjoyed seeing the partner more than my friend bc we had more in common and enjoyed talking, laughing and going to do things. Once the friend was caught, the partner and I compared notes and I was able to help him through the difficult moments of the breakup. We became pretty close! Probably closer than I was with my friend.

This is where it gets a little odd....

Through this, our conversations went many directions. We shared more about ourselves, we told jokes, stories... great conversation. He would start sending pics... no "dick picks" put pics to leave a lot to the imagination. Like leading me up to the edge but not showing. I started the same. Pics like he would send me I would send back, or just a random selfie he would "heart" it in the text. He "hearts" everything I post on Facebook. We have even talked abut masturbation... we have more or less done it together through text. Not like sexting but we both knew what we were doing.

He talks about another guy that he hooked up with 2 or 3 times within the last month before the guy moved. I think they still text daily.. He chats some with a guy on grindr that lives near him but nothing like they hooking up.. but I cant confirm that. We talk on the phone for HOURS! I mean like 3, 4, or even a few nights ago 6 hours. He texts me good morning every day... he checks in during the work day. He refers to me as "friend" in texts... He has said something recently like he likes to become friends with a guy first and then see if more was to happen... Is that a hint? In the last few months I have caught some serious feelings for him. I can not stop thinking about him. I have fantasies of us being together... both sexually and in a real relationship. Y'all... I have major feelings for him! I am so scared of rejection and cant tell him... Sometimes I think he may have some feelings developing too, then he will mention the guy that moved that he text him or whatever... So I have no idea! He is wanting me to come visit him and I do plan on doing it soon.

Could there be something there on his side, too? Am I wishful thinking? We are 700 miles apart which SUCKS!!! Any thoughts?
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Re: Help?! What’s going on?!

Unread postby PopTart » 9 April 2021, 17:24

I'm genuinely surprised you needed to ask this question not one, twice, but three times :lol:

I know you still haven't had a response, hence the asking.

But I'm surprised you need to ask it even once, as it seems blatantly obvious, that your friends ex' with whom you have been talking intimately, sometimes for 6 hours at a time (I've lived with people and not spoken to them for that long in a week, let alone a day... over the phone!) and with whom you have shared sexy pictures and all but jerked off with... is into you.

I mean, short of tying you down and sitting on your face, how much clearer does he need to be?

Yes, he clearly likes you :english:

Go do something about it! Before he figures you aren't interested.
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Re: Help?! What’s going on?!

Unread postby ARTN2026 » 9 April 2021, 23:01

I get what you’re saying... but I just don’t know. Like he told me today he was going to dinner with a guy. During anther 2 hour phone call... I asked if it was dinner or a date... long pause and said dinner. He called me on the way to dinner and to meet the guy... they’ve been talking for a month. Text each good morning just like the guy I like does me. I asked if he was excited and said yes... asked if it was friends or a potential for it to be more... he said possibly? But if it didn’t happen he’d have a new friend that’s close... so now I’m more confused than ever! When he confirmed there could be develop later it made my heart sink. So again, I’m more confused...
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Re: Help?! What’s going on?!

Unread postby PopTart » 9 April 2021, 23:16

Has it occurred to you, that he tells you about these other guys, in the hopes you might act?

You like him. That much is clear.

You can wait around, watch the possibility pass by and be left wondering for the rest of forever. Or you can take a chance, with a guy who clearly enjoys your company and is attracted to you enough to share intimacy with you.

If it doesn't work out, it doesnt work out. But if it does. That would be something wouldn't it?
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Re: Help?! What’s going on?!

Unread postby ARTN2026 » 14 April 2021, 03:38

UPDATE:
On Sunday his friend brought me up... he said not now. He crossed the friend line before and it blew up in his face. But didn’t totally dismiss it in the future and that you never know what could happen... today, she asked again and he was like no. He loved me like a brother.... he is still “hearting” some of my text messages and pics (selfies) I send so I am so confused. Is it he has feelings and does not realize it? Is he so confused and stressed out over the recent breakup? Is it a hard no? I am so confused... mixed signals.
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Re: Help?! What’s going on?!

Unread postby Frigid » 14 April 2021, 16:39

Talk to him directly rather than trying to guess what he’s thinking and feeling.
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