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Unread postby Szymonnikt » 1 January 2019, 22:51

So my boyfriend has really religious parents. They even have told him that if he come out atheist he need to pack up and go. I have really supportive parents. I am a one of the first people he came out to. So I really don't want to screw up. We taking things slowly and he won't be outing himself to parents to soon. How is your experience with outing to parents you think are homophobic?
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby mxguy01 » 2 January 2019, 01:58

Depends upon many details. Only oneself can truely determine when it's time and is not for others to criticize.

Beyond that I would say if he is still dependent on them, financially or otherwise, to defer it. Otherwise I'd suggest telling them not having some other reason not to.
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby Chris94 » 2 January 2019, 05:02

so far I never had the occasion to face parents who are homphobic but its very much a tough case to crack.

Unless your partner can/is willing to move out, chances are his parents will try everything to put a wrench between the gears so to say, especially if they are really fanatic about their beliefs.

at any rate having people like them around wont exactly make things easier.
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 2 January 2019, 12:02

I wouldn't do it. Not, unless you two have your own place to live at, or you're together the friends or couple way. So he can run and hide, if should do so.
Depending on the religious strictness of the people, that can be quite dangerous.
There are still kids kicked out brutally in our country, if their folks find out. Some beat them up or drag them to a spiritual healer, or shrink. i would advise to keep silent. If he likes to continue contact to his people and have everything nice like in the days back - never tell them.
You have a right on privacy, too. One to live life the way you want it.
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Honesty and everything? Skip this. There probably will be one or the other thing that parents would not have cared about being honest.
He won't live a lie, he just doesn't need to tell everything.

If he chooses to do so, be there with him and take the ninja squad.
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby mxguy01 » 2 January 2019, 16:09

... You have a right on privacy, too...


I'd rather think that you have the right to tell them and expect them to react with respect. You don't tell them for "them", you tell them for "you" when you are ready.
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby anonymousguy » 17 January 2019, 12:44

Szymonnikt wrote:So my boyfriend has really religious parents. They even have told him that if he come out atheist he need to pack up and go. I have really supportive parents. I am a one of the first people he came out to. So I really don't want to screw up. We taking things slowly and he won't be outing himself to parents to soon. How is your experience with outing to parents you think are homophobic?


What are you guys age?
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 21 January 2019, 13:43

anonymousguy wrote:
Szymonnikt wrote:So my boyfriend has really religious parents. They even have told him that if he come out atheist he need to pack up and go. I have really supportive parents. I am a one of the first people he came out to. So I really don't want to screw up. We taking things slowly and he won't be outing himself to parents to soon. How is your experience with outing to parents you think are homophobic?


What are you guys age?



I'm 22 and he is 20. We are both working and studying. He is now in Cracow and he will be changing apartment this year to something more comfortable. So it isn't so wrong. Still, yesterday mather of my bf might see his mobile paper wall with me on it. We will see how it will go.
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Re: Homophobic parents.

Unread postby Eryx » 21 January 2019, 20:08

Well, judging from what you told us he should probably leave his parents' house, get a sustainable job and be completely independent before saying anything. I'd also suggest telling his parents in a public place, like a restaurant, because I get the sense that things could get physical or way too dramatic if he actually went to their place. He should probably think about removing anything of personal or monetary value from his room before doing anything as well.
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