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How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Marco96 » 5 June 2019, 18:04

I am an upcoming basketball player in my hometown, and about a month ago, after a tournament, I noticed that a guy was giving me repeated glances and smiled shyly at me.
He then walked up to me and seemed a bit nervous, but then said that he really enjoyed the game and complimented me on my play, then after a bit of conversation he told me hesitantly that he thought that I was "very handsome" and asked if we could meet some time.
I said that I am currently in a relationship (because I am), and he nodded and said "oh, okay", and looked a bit disappointed, but smiled a bit immediately afterwards.
We then talked for a moment after that and then he left, still looking a bit disappointed but still with a hint of a smile.

Two weeks later at another game (this time it was a friend match, but there were still lots of people there) I noticed him in the audience, looking in my direction, and when we made eye contact he gave me a very tender smile, and then he seemed to rest his eyes on me throughout the rest of the game with a slight smile, but he looked a little bit gloomy - his mouth smiled a bit, but his eyes were a bit melancholic.
Then after the game I saw him looking a bit at me again, and this time I walked up to him myself and started a conversation with him, and he looked really delighted (but still a bit gloomy), and he would often try to look into my eyes but always looked down on the ground, and he sometimes stuttered a little bit.
For a moment I assumed that he possibly found me intimidating, since I am about 6'9 tall (almost 1'2 taller than him, I'm sure) and significantly more muscular than him, but he only seemed that way sometimes - he could smile a lot and look into my eyes with a very tender gaze, but then a little while later hesitate and seem insecure again.
Then he was lost in thought for a little while and seemed quite down and thoughtful, and when I asked him what was the matter he said "...it's nothing", and smiled back at me.
I noticed that he also blinked a lot more often than normal (which I have heard is a subconscious sign of interest), and also very subtly moistened his lips a little bit and then kept them slightly open, which apparently is also a sign of interest that he probably did without thinking about it.
Then when I was about to leave he held eye contact with me with a careful smile again, and then I left.

What do you think all this means?
Is he ashamed of something, or what's the matter?
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby erti » 5 June 2019, 18:14

From my interpretation it sounds like he still likes you. I find myself doing the same things with my crushes when I talk to them. Give it time. He's probably just admiring you from afar. As long as he doesn't over step your boundaries then I see no problem with it.
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 5 June 2019, 21:32

I think he really likes you, but is shy and that's just his way of showing it. He's gloomy because he's lot his shot with you, as you're in a relationship. He would probably be very excited if you answered positively to his date proposal. Looking down after holding eye contact is just his shyness coming through, something like those Japanese girls in animations and girls when they're coming onto boys in Middle School. Heh.
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Marco96 » 5 June 2019, 21:49

Would you say that it seems like he is in love with me?
I get that feeling, since he always gazes at me with his most tender eyes and seems both horny and really delighted when I talk to him.
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 5 June 2019, 22:02

"In love" is a strong term, I'd say it's more of a crush. But if you're dating, why do you care? You shouldn't lead him on, unless you want to pursue something with him, in which case you should consider whether you're enjoying your current relationship or not.
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Jryski » 5 June 2019, 23:18

He is too cute! How precious!
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Marco96 » 6 June 2019, 00:45

Jryski wrote:He is too cute! How precious!
What are you thinking of?
Just curious. :P
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby SteveIsNotMe » 6 June 2019, 02:24

Is he admiring you for your sport skill? Or he may have a crush on you?

Perhaps you might want to ask him about the sport? Who is his favourite player? [I'm unsure of basketball player, but when it comes to football (soccer in US) people tend to admire Ronaldo/Messi.] You can further ask him why he admire that sportman? Then you can ask him: what about you? Like: how were you playing today? Then you might want to ask him: Did he come for the games often?. Those are hints. Never ask never know. ;)

Btw he's kinda shy though. Take it slow. :3
And... don't take advantage on a precious shy guy. :P
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Jryski » 6 June 2019, 03:43

Hes shy and comes off as super innocent based on the way you described him. It's hella cute
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Re: How should I judge this guy?

Unread postby Marco96 » 6 June 2019, 10:22

Jryski wrote:Hes shy and comes off as super innocent based on the way you described him. It's hella cute

I think part of it might be because he finds me slightly intimidating, since his eyes are about the same height as my mid-chest and he is also smaller than me in general.
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I need a girlfriend in my live am single

Unread postby Arnold44 » 14 June 2019, 22:24

Any want interested for a long term relationship with a black guy?
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