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How to give more power to your significant other?

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 16 December 2018, 16:08

I have a little fear. I was on the second date and when we were looking at our eyes for hours. I manage to ask something a little uncomfortable him and he did it for me. I know it looks normal. But I fear that because he is a little new to those things (just like me) and I felt a little control he can start to think that he needs to do what I want to mountain relationship. I told him I want him to show me his standards and limits and he did it recently. But I feel he is still nervous and not confident what he can say to me or do to me. I said to him to tell me everything even what is annoying about me because I want a relationship with good communication. He wants to do thing slowly so how I can give him feel more confident without pressing my touch on him.
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Re: How to give more power to your significant other?

Unread postby Eryx » 17 December 2018, 14:17

Just give him time, these things come naturally.
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Re: How to give more power to your significant other?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 17 December 2018, 18:55

Szymonnikt wrote:...I said to him to tell me everything even ...

... He wants to do thing slowly...


You can listen to what he is telling you or you can continue to push to the point where you make him uncomfortable. For you to decide the right course going forward but I highly suggest you think which of those two choices will result in the outcome you wish to happen.
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Re: How to give more power to your significant other?

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 17 December 2018, 19:23

We are seem to talk about our fears and expectations. So you are right that the only factor for us is time. Thank you for letting. Me have outlet here for my inconfidence.
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