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How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby poppyroppy4 » 18 February 2020, 09:19

Hello Guys,

I just realised this is the correct forum to discuss this issue. I earlier posted on General Discussions.

I have a huge (like really huge) crush on one of my straight friends. I think about him all the time and I ofcourse jacked off to visions of him naked and us doing stuff multiple times. I get dreams that I am banging him and stuff. I have even seen him naked and got some nudes of him as well. In recent times, this has affected me a lot since I know what I am fantasizing is next to impossible.

I have not made any passes at him and he doesnt know I am bi. I am not knowing how to handle this. I am more than sure he is not Bi and the friendship is just too important for me to take any risks. I sometimes feel if I can get one fuck with him, it will be really good and I can get a closure.

Any suggestions to handle this situation are more than welcome.

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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby rogonandi » 18 February 2020, 09:26

Why has he sent you nude pictures of him? No completely straight guy I ever knew has done this. :confused:
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby poppyroppy4 » 18 February 2020, 09:27

He has not. Got them through someone else...
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Eos » 18 February 2020, 15:44

You need to overcome your feelings. If you ever have sex with him (which is not likely), both of you will never see each other the same way. I don't say it's easy, but having friend is already so cool so why risk it for a one time experience ?
Especially if he is straight, you should respect who he is. Especially since you're not open with him concerning your sexuality.

This is just my opinion. In the end you have the choice.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby poppyroppy4 » 19 February 2020, 09:32

Eos wrote:You need to overcome your feelings. If you ever have sex with him (which is not likely), both of you will never see each other the same way. I don't say it's easy, but having friend is already so cool so why risk it for a one time experience ?
Especially if he is straight, you should respect who he is. Especially since you're not open with him concerning your sexuality.

This is just my opinion. In the end you have the choice.

I understand the risk factor you mentioned. But if we have sex why won't we see each other in the same way again? I didn't quite get that
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Eos » 19 February 2020, 18:30

Well in my opinion (and I'm not alone), having sex isn't just about fucking someone, once you've done it, you'll see someone in a deeper, intimate, level. You might have had fun, but he, as a heterosexual, will not see things like you. And having to remember every day that you had sex with a guy can really make a friend not wanting to see you again.

That is just my opinion, but I've read this kind of story quite often on various forums. I can't remember any happy endings.

And I still think it is really not fair that you hide your sexuality from your friend. It should be the last person that doesn't accept you if they are true friends.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Frigid » 20 February 2020, 19:42

1) he’s straight get over it
2) Unless he made his nudes public, he didn’t send you them or intend for you to see them so delete
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby poppyroppy4 » 20 February 2020, 23:55

He made his nudes public in a forum I wasn't part of. Either way I have seen him nude live, so not a big deal.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Jryski » 24 February 2020, 15:39

This is oddly cute. You’re so infatuated and it’s adorable. Having said so, you’ve already realized that this isn’t a good idea. It’s fine to find someone hot and fantasize about them. Just make sure you’re also not solely focused on him because you could miss out on a lot of great connections when you’ve only got eyes for someone unobtainable.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby poppyroppy4 » 24 February 2020, 17:37

Jryski wrote:This is oddly cute. You’re so infatuated and it’s adorable. Having said so, you’ve already realized that this isn’t a good idea. It’s fine to find someone hot and fantasize about them. Just make sure you’re also not solely focused on him because you could miss out on a lot of great connections when you’ve only got eyes for someone unobtainable.


Thanks for the lovely reply. True that I am head in heels in love with him. I know this is impractical but when he is around I get all excited and would die for him. But sad, he is straight.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Jryski » 24 February 2020, 17:45

poppyroppy4 wrote:
Jryski wrote:This is oddly cute. You’re so infatuated and it’s adorable. Having said so, you’ve already realized that this isn’t a good idea. It’s fine to find someone hot and fantasize about them. Just make sure you’re also not solely focused on him because you could miss out on a lot of great connections when you’ve only got eyes for someone unobtainable.


Thanks for the lovely reply. True that I am head in heels in love with him. I know this is impractical but when he is around I get all excited and would die for him. But sad, he is straight.

*hugs* you’ll be alright. :3 I do believe that we fall in love with many different people in our lifetime and each one will be different in the way we love. Don’t stress! There’ll be more comin your way! :P
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby secretasianman » 25 February 2020, 17:47

My "straight" friend, I could tell, had a crush on me since childhood. I am bi, but was not out (am still not to my family and most of my friends). Anyways, we were at another friend's bachelor party, and we shared a room. He likes to talk a lot, so was sharing his frustration about the lack of sex in his marriage, even a simple blowjob. I was drunk and really horny that night, so I kind of let him in on my secret, and told him that most women I had been with didn't like giving blowjobs whenever I wanted, but when I was with another guy, I gave him as many blowjobs as he wanted. At any rate, despite him being married, I knew he was bisexual like me. That weekend, I gave him a blowjob whenever he wanted... and more. Basically, if you have a hunch your friend knows you're kind of into him, or that he might be kind of into you, just try to get into a similar situation where you can talk about sex in a room alone together, especially if you're drunk. ;)
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Eryx » 27 February 2020, 06:59

I disagree, I think your advice is terrible.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby rogonandi » 27 February 2020, 09:04

You aren’t going to get him in any sort of romantic or sexual relationship since he’s straight, so you may want to stop wasting your energy on endless fantasy.

Wanting what you can’t have is human nature, but it’s unhealthy to fixate on it. Too many gay guys keep getting stuck in unhealthy patterns like these.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby poppyroppy4 » 27 February 2020, 14:19

secretasianman wrote:My "straight" friend, I could tell, had a crush on me since childhood. I am bi, but was not out (am still not to my family and most of my friends). Anyways, we were at another friend's bachelor party, and we shared a room. He likes to talk a lot, so was sharing his frustration about the lack of sex in his marriage, even a simple blowjob. I was drunk and really horny that night, so I kind of let him in on my secret, and told him that most women I had been with didn't like giving blowjobs whenever I wanted, but when I was with another guy, I gave him as many blowjobs as he wanted. At any rate, despite him being married, I knew he was bisexual like me. That weekend, I gave him a blowjob whenever he wanted... and more. Basically, if you have a hunch your friend knows you're kind of into him, or that he might be kind of into you, just try to get into a similar situation where you can talk about sex in a room alone together, especially if you're drunk. ;)


I understand your situation. To be honest the situation in your case acted in your favor. HAd he not discussed his sex life, I am sure you wont take the risk of coming out to him.

See I would so love to see something like this happen in our case, but certainly wont take the initiative from my end. Especially when there is a chance of end of friendship.
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Re: How to handle the huge crush I have on my Straight Friend

Unread postby Jryski » 27 February 2020, 14:33

Oh there definitely is a chance for the relationship to end if you do that.
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