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How to stop anxiety / overthinking get in the way of dating?

Unread postby comicgeek » 11 January 2021, 14:44

Hi Everyone,

Some background to this. I've been talking to a guy everyday since the beginning of November, we message each other "Good Morning" and message each other throughout the day as well. We finally met up last Wednesday for Coffee, having previously been unable to due to local lockdown restrictions. He messaged straight after saying "I definitely want to see you again." and we met up at the weekend and I spent the night at his. Nothing really happened apart from a lot of kissing and cuddling. Yesterday a couple of hours after I left his, I messaged him asking if he would like to meet up again and he said "I mean we had a good time, relaxed evening, a good laugh - I'd be happy to see you again, that's if you want to as well of course?"

I'm really not use to messaging guys and going on dates, I've been in one relationship which lasted a year and ended due to him cheating on me. After the weekend, I can't help but feel really anxious about things and I can't help but overthink and overanalyse his messages. How do you guys handle this? Do you have any suggestions on how to calm myself down so I don't mess things up? :(
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Re: How to stop anxiety / overthinking get in the way of dating?

Unread postby jamessemaj » 11 January 2021, 15:28

Sound like it's going well tbh...

I think you're own reflections that you are OVER-analysing things is the point proven?

Best of luck with it
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Re: How to stop anxiety / overthinking get in the way of dating?

Unread postby Eryx » 11 January 2021, 17:34

Seems pretty straight forward to me...
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Re: How to stop anxiety / overthinking get in the way of dating?

Unread postby comicgeek » 11 January 2021, 17:35

Eryx wrote:Seems pretty straight forward to me...


Care to share, please?
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Re: How to stop anxiety / overthinking get in the way of dating?

Unread postby Eryx » 11 January 2021, 21:21

I definitely want to see you again.
I mean we had a good time, relaxed evening, a good laugh - I'd be happy to see you again, that's if you want to as well of course?
What is there to over-analyze here? He's into you, you're into him, just let things progress naturally. Does he seem like a decent person? We can never be 100% sure the other person isn't going to cheat, but it also shouldn't stop us from trying for new people. Just try to have fun.
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Re: How to stop anxiety / overthinking get in the way of dating?

Unread postby OutsideIn » 11 January 2021, 23:13

Is your over-thinking and anxiety only present around the topic of dating? If it is something you deal with in multiple aspects of your life, then you need to treat it differently, not just target one area.
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