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I am in my first woman to woman relationship and i need advice! :)

Unread postby maetest » 20 August 2021, 20:03

Hi! I am 29 years old and only been with men. I am now in my first woman to woman relationship and a lot are very confusing to me. Like how my girlfriend is friends with all her exes and acts like this is the norm. I also feel insecure because I feel like I dont know what im doing cause ive never been with a woman. I also dont have a lot of gay friends that I can talk to who will understand what it is really like. Any relationship advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! :)
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Unread postby PopTart » 20 August 2021, 21:39

Alot of my lesbian friends, do tend to have pretty good or atleast, amicable relationships with their exes, it does seem to be a "thing" amongst lesbians, like moving in together after the first date. That kind of thing.

Self esteem is important in any relationship, gay or straight. If you don't believe you are worth sticking around for, you are going to suspect she feels that way too. So you need to work on that.

Communicating well with your partner could help too. Maybe let her know you feel abit out of your depth and you could do with talking to her about things.

Making friends of your own will give you impartial people to talk to for advice. You could also speak to some of her friends, the ones she hasn't dated and see if they would be willing to give you some guidance from time to time.
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Unread postby Eryx » 27 August 2021, 22:11

maetest wrote:Like how my girlfriend is friends with all her exes and acts like this is the norm.
Lol yeah I don't get that either, it's a very lesbian thing :lol:
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Unread postby Jzone » 29 August 2021, 03:31

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maetest wrote:Like how my girlfriend is friends with all her exes and acts like this is the norm.
Lol yeah I don't get that either, it's a very lesbian thing :lol:

I'm good with all my exes, and I am not a lesbian by any definition. Sometimes it felt like a matter of "keep your friends close, and your enemies closer," but I honestly remember why I loved each of them. It just didn't work. Life goes on.
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Unread postby PopTart » 29 August 2021, 07:01

Jzone wrote:
Eryx wrote:
maetest wrote:Like how my girlfriend is friends with all her exes and acts like this is the norm.
Lol yeah I don't get that either, it's a very lesbian thing :lol:

I'm good with all my exes, and I am not a lesbian by any definition.
Or are you? Maybe your inner self is a lesbian. :shrug: Or perhaps your spirit guide is a foxy box muncher? :P
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Unread postby Eryx » 31 August 2021, 23:21

Jzone wrote:
Eryx wrote:
maetest wrote:Like how my girlfriend is friends with all her exes and acts like this is the norm.
Lol yeah I don't get that either, it's a very lesbian thing :lol:

I'm good with all my exes, and I am not a lesbian by any definition.
:gay:

I was poking fun at how it's common, you and I both know that, I'm not going to explain the fact that everyone's different just because I joked at a common generalization :3
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