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I don't know what to do anymore! Need advice!

Unread postby Jepje » 29 April 2022, 17:30

hello,

I am a 20 year old Bisexual guy form the netherlands, and I am a party freak. I go out a lot and most of the time I party till the end. sometime this is really hard and luckly I have much controle over my life. exept the relationsship part. I don't wanna be like self-importance or selfish, but I am hot. I have no problem wiht guy's or girls. If i want and what I sometimes do, I can hook up with al lot of people. but I hooked up with this guy a few weeks ago and now we are dating. this week in spring break was magical at first. this was a spring to never forget I a really like(d) him. I already was on his birthday a have huged him a night long when his grandfather was in the hospitol and i already met his mom in a week. it was really good felling at first, but after seen him for 1 week straigt. like 7 day's in a row, i started to think differently. I am a bit of a hoe, so i need to cancel that part. but i think that i am going to fast in this and need to take a few day's alone. but it just felt so great like we don't wanna wast time we just jumped in like a canonball. are there people that can give me some advice in how to put things slowly when you already went to fast.

sorry for my english if it is not great in it's grammer, i tried my best.

kind regards,

Jepje
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore! Need advice!

Unread postby Bottomsup469 » 29 April 2022, 18:32

Jepje my friend I absolutely understand you had special times with this person and that’s great! Nothing can make that change its history and will forever be great memories.
However you are age 20yrs and should never be tied to one person, one place, no options.
You must move forward on your own where you are comfortable and just let the person down easy. It may be you come back together sometime soon or down the road decades. Who knows
But for right now as a you g man go live and experience and travel the world if possible but do not straddle yourself with stone while attempting to swim the ocean.
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore! Need advice!

Unread postby Dorkus Malorkus » 7 May 2022, 03:36

Um i'd sort of say this is crappy advice... but hey, no wonder there are so many people who are disappointed already and sick of men, that they are saying they can ' go there own way' ( GOTW), they must be getting advice from you😒.

My parents got married young, my dad was 19 and my mom 21, they were together for 40 yrs so what do you say about that?. Theres nothing wrong with having feelings for just one person your whole life & or wanting to settle down🤔, if this guy actually listened to your advice i think he'd just end up sad\ alone and depressed at the end..

Bottomsup469 wrote:Jepje my friend I absolutely understand you had special times with this person and that’s great! Nothing can make that change its history and will forever be great memories.
However you are age 20yrs and should never be tied to one person, one place, no options.
You must move forward on your own where you are comfortable and just let the person down easy. It may be you come back together sometime soon or down the road decades. Who knows
But for right now as a you g man go live and experience and travel the world if possible but do not straddle yourself with stone while attempting to swim the ocean.
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore! Need advice!

Unread postby Dorkus Malorkus » 7 May 2022, 04:11

Id say take some time off but don't rip the guys heart out. If he's special to you, & you are to him i don't see why you shouldnt go for this. My Dad was 19 when he married my mom & they lasted for 40 yrs together hows that fir being the age that they were. There is something not good about a man who is afraid of being in a relationship or commitment, unless he has just been hurt too many times, well than that makes sense.

Be careful with the partying tho, unless he parties too? If he doesn't want you to party tho, personally i would stop that stuff if you can. Sorry, just my opinion.






Jepje wrote:hello,

I am a 20 year old Bisexual guy form the netherlands, and I am a party freak. I go out a lot and most of the time I party till the end. sometime this is really hard and luckly I have much controle over my life. exept the relationsship part. I don't wanna be like self-importance or selfish, but I am hot. I have no problem wiht guy's or girls. If i want and what I sometimes do, I can hook up with al lot of people. but I hooked up with this guy a few weeks ago and now we are dating. this week in spring break was magical at first. this was a spring to never forget I a really like(d) him. I already was on his birthday a have huged him a night long when his grandfather was in the hospitol and i already met his mom in a week. it was really good felling at first, but after seen him for 1 week straigt. like 7 day's in a row, i started to think differently. I am a bit of a hoe, so i need to cancel that part. but i think that i am going to fast in this and need to take a few day's alone. but it just felt so great like we don't wanna wast time we just jumped in like a canonball. are there people that can give me some advice in how to put things slowly when you already went to fast.

sorry for my english if it is not great in it's grammer, i tried my best.

kind regards,

Jepje
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Re: I don't know what to do anymore! Need advice!

Unread postby Bottomsup469 » 10 May 2022, 08:07

Jepje I will say this again: Leave, go live life, enjoy yourself do not waste your youth with anyone you are unhappy with.
The guy who says this is crappy advice is comparing you to his MOM & DAD!
If that doesn’t scare you nothing will.
Maybe you meet the love of your life get married and live happily ever after but you will never know tied to someone you are unhappy with.
Run don’t walk! Life is fascinating and beautiful, the journey ahead will have many sensual, sexual, erotic experiences do not miss the train by standing outside the station wondering if the train will be fun.
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