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Unread postby ujiihoon » 12 February 2021, 01:57

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Re: I don't know what to do! [lesbian couple]

Unread postby Eryx » 12 February 2021, 13:02

So you had an online relationship with her and you wanted her to cut ties with everyone she knows in real life because you, an online girlfriend, was jealous? Do you understand how problematic that is?

I'm sorry, but I can't help but think the "flirting" that got you so aggravated was just friendly banter. The way you talk about controlling her life and relationships seems pathologic. If you can't handle someone you're with being with seeing other people and dedicating their time and affection towards other people, you're not ready for a relationship.

I can't control my boyfriend. He's had guy and girl friends before me. Some closer, some more distant, some gay and some straight. If he's my boyfriend, it's because he made it clear to me that he wants to be with me and not someone else. And I want him to be happy and for him to live his life, so preventing him from seeing the people he loves is something that I would NEVER do. I'm not his owner. And you aren't hers either.

It's an online relationship, I don't understand at what point you decided you'd earned the right to control her relationships. She's dodged a bullet with this breakup. And you need a psychologist.

Think about it, if you did this to someone on the internet, can you imagine what you'd do to someone in real life? I can imagine you becoming very abusive, locking the door and yelling about past girlfriends or close friends being too touchy with a future girlfriend of yours. Turning off the phone on their hand or whatever. You don't do this.

If you're too jealous of a girlfriend and you suspect she's going door to door to flirt, then just break up. Don't try to wall them up as if you have the right to own their free time. This post sucks.
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