I don't know where we stand

Ask questions and discuss your relationships with partners or parents, family or friends.

I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Sager9397 » 5 August 2020, 18:56

Hey, so I've been dating this guy for over 2 weeks now. We have done many things together like playing games, shopping road trips and sex.

I have very little experience with relationships and dating so what may seem obvious to other people may not be so obvious to me.

I really like this guy a lot, like a lot, but he has so much more experience than I do. He's had sex with more than 100 guys and had 3 or 4 long term relationships with other guys before me. Me, this is only the 2nd person I have sex with or dated like we do.

I went into this hoping to start q relationship with someone. I ended up really liking him, but I'm not sure he likes me the same way.

I know that these things take time, but what should I be expecting at this point? Should I still be trying to meet other people in case this guy decides that he doesn't want me anymore? Or should I be holding off waiting to see what comes out of our "friendship"?
Sager9397
 
Posts: 5
Joined: 5 August 2020, 07:10

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Eos » 5 August 2020, 20:21

I personally can't manage to give other people enough attention if I already have my eye on someone.
From this point I had just make hints to show that I really like him, in order to give him the time he needs.
When you can't hold it anymore you will have to be honest with him and say that you need him to make a decision. But remember to give hints before that, otherwise you might both be holding on your feelings.

You have all the time in the world, no need to see 10 guys at a time to find the right person.
Eos
 
Posts: 175
+1s received: 83
Joined: 2 April 2019, 07:30
Country: France (fr)

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Safigooner » 5 August 2020, 20:55

well last thing you would want is to scare him off
I personally would just take things slowly, keep enjoying the things you do together and with time you will know better.
don't rush into conclusions, maybe u just have a crush on him for now and it will wear off later.
relationship takes time to build and feelings at first are confusing
Safigooner
 
Posts: 52
+1s received: 20
Joined: 22 January 2020, 05:28
Country: Israel (il)

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Eryx » 5 August 2020, 21:03

If you're interested in him and want to make it happen, there's no point in meeting other people while you're with him. It'll probably make you feel bad and you won't be able to be real with all the other guys honestly.

The fact that he's experienced means nothing, what does carry meaning is what he tells you about how he feels and how eager he is to be with you and do things with you.
Image

Image Image Image

You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.
— Harlan Ellison
User avatar
Eryx
 
Posts: 2715
+1s received: 1681
Joined: 20 December 2012, 21:48
Location: Belo Horizonte, MG
Country: Brazil (br)

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Sager9397 » 5 August 2020, 21:47

I guess at this point, the best thing I can do is wait. I'm a very anxious person by nature, and that makes me very emotional. I'm just scared to get hurt in the end if it ends up not working out.
Sager9397
 
Posts: 5
Joined: 5 August 2020, 07:10

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Jasper1 » 6 August 2020, 09:43

Sager9397 wrote:I guess at this point, the best thing I can do is wait. I'm a very anxious person by nature, and that makes me very emotional. I'm just scared to get hurt in the end if it ends up not working out.


If you like this guy your heart won’t be in it fooling around with others. On the other hand you cannot wait forever so have a direct conversation.

It’s always better to know where you stand even if the answer is not what you want to hear.
User avatar
Jasper1
 
Posts: 92
+1s received: 63
Joined: 12 July 2020, 11:44
Location: London
Country: United Kingdom (gb)

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Eryx » 6 August 2020, 13:46

True, and I'd add that if you feel like you do want to be in a relationship with him now, you should come forward. If he's not that invested in the relationship, he'll let you know, and if he is, he'll be happy with the proposal.

Getting hurt is part of the game. The chance that this will be the last relationship you'll go through isn't that big. Heartbreak is something nearly everyone will experience at least once, so instead of letting yourself be scared it'll happen, make sure you're prepared for it if it does.
Image

Image Image Image

You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.
— Harlan Ellison
User avatar
Eryx
 
Posts: 2715
+1s received: 1681
Joined: 20 December 2012, 21:48
Location: Belo Horizonte, MG
Country: Brazil (br)

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Sager9397 » 6 August 2020, 15:33

Jasper1 wrote:
Sager9397 wrote:I guess at this point, the best thing I can do is wait. I'm a very anxious person by nature, and that makes me very emotional. I'm just scared to get hurt in the end if it ends up not working out.


If you like this guy your heart won’t be in it fooling around with others. On the other hand you cannot wait forever so have a direct conversation.

It’s always better to know where you stand even if the answer is not what you want to hear.


Thanks for your feedback and advice guys! I really appreciate it!
Sager9397
 
Posts: 5
Joined: 5 August 2020, 07:10

Re: I don't know where we stand

Unread postby Frigid » 7 August 2020, 17:24

I’d say it’s only been 2 weeks... give it chance
User avatar
Frigid
 
Posts: 1605
+1s received: 285
Joined: 20 December 2012, 20:23
Country: United Kingdom (gb)


Recently active
Users browsing this forum: abash107, CommonCrawl [Bot], dragonfire, Eos and 54 guests