I fear I wasted my youth

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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby Badlands17 » 6 September 2019, 17:31

Eryx wrote:Lol the dude didn't even get into his 20s yet and he's already thinking life is over. Wtf.

I lost my virginity when I was 18. And all the better things happened after that. I'm going to be 27 on Friday and I feel like these past couple of years have been the greatest in my life. Calm down!


I honestly get where you’re coming from and I get your point but I never thought I would reach my twenties because of my struggle with depression and anxiety and now that I’m actually here I’m disappointed in the life I lived. I know overthinking it doesn’t take me anywhere but most of the times my brain doesn’t work like it’s supposed to
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby Badlands17 » 6 September 2019, 17:32

Eos wrote:I was kinda like you.
I'm 23, never been in a relationship (I liked someone but it only lasted 1 month since it wasn't shared), never had sex.
I've been looking for people since one year.
All I'm saying is that you can take your time.
If you fully accepted your sexuality (and live it well) it'll be much easier to find someone.
You need to have a good self confidence beforehand as well.
Once you get to that point you'll notice there is a lot of people that could like you.


Thank you, I agree on the fact that I have to work on my self confidence first but it takes time and work so I’m still working on it, I’ll do my best tho
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby Jzone » 7 September 2019, 01:29

Badlands17 wrote:I never thought I would reach my twenties because of my struggle with depression and anxiety and now that I’m actually here I’m disappointed in the life I lived. I know overthinking it doesn’t take me anywhere but most of the times my brain doesn’t work like it’s supposed to

You have much more life ahead of you than behind. Make it worth something to you. Don't expect to change overnight, but keep working at your confidence, self-esteem, goals, etc, and you may be surprised who you are in 5 or 10 years.
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby Eryx » 9 September 2019, 04:10

Badlands17 wrote:I honestly get where you’re coming from and I get your point but I never thought I would reach my twenties because of my struggle with depression and anxiety and now that I’m actually here I’m disappointed in the life I lived. I know overthinking it doesn’t take me anywhere but most of the times my brain doesn’t work like it’s supposed to
We're all there, man. I've dealt with depression but it's thankfully gone. Anxiety is always with me, whether I like it or not. Just understand that not everything is so dramatic or urgent, you are going to live, you are going to succeed, you are going to meet other boys, fall in love, maybe break up and cry, to live yet another day. We've all got the strength to go through the hurdles. Calm down and take it by the moment a little more. I used to go crazy over thinking about things like college, imagining all four years at once, the pressure, the tests, the friendships I'd have to maintain, and that all felt and sounded so overwhelming! What helped me was to plan each semester for what it is, forgetting what comes after, and to just enjoy my time with friends, teachers and simple homework. Because that's what life actually is: today. Not the 10-year-plan.
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby lightnight » 10 September 2019, 19:51

Oh God.... I'll say a prayer for your wasted youth. Such a terrible loss. Now you'll have to wither away as a 20 year old until death finally frees you from this aching breaking body.
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 11 September 2019, 01:56

:rofl:


No but seriously, get a head start while you can before we come at you with pitchforks.
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 11 September 2019, 08:09

It's an utterly pointless thing to worry about whatever age you are (although I can see why people do). Stop worrying what might have been and start living for the now.

But then you're 20, life has barely begun for you and you definitely shouldn't be feeling this way at this point. You ARE young, go enjoy yourself.

Also you do realise how many people have never been in a serious relationship at the age of 20? Depending what you consider a "serious" lengthy relationship, that honestly probably applies to most people. I hadn't had a relationship by 20, in fact I was quite new to dating then myself.
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby René » 13 September 2019, 19:22

Your brain doesn't finish developing until about age 25. So you can postpone the existential crisis for 5 years :)
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby mxguy01 » 13 September 2019, 19:33

Oh, and if you don't deal with that feeling at this juncture of your life, don't expect it to get better...
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Re: I fear I wasted my youth

Unread postby uncut7in » Yesterday, 14:48

I wouldn't worry. I didn't have a relationship from my schooldays until I was 31, so you could say I wasted my 20s! There were serious health issues which explained the large gap in my sex life.

I'm pleased to say I'm getting far more sex now in my 70s than ever before, so perhaps it's never too late to start.
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