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I have a crush on my straight friend whos in a relationship

Unread postby optimum3468 » 9 November 2019, 19:08

Hi, I'm 18, just finished sixth form and am taking a year out before I go to university. In my last year of school there was a guy I saw every week in band who was fun we had a good laugh every rehearsal and I developed a crush on him. As time got on we got eachothers numbers started messaging eachother and started to meet up and what not. By the end of the summer we were eachothers best friends. We talked to eachother about everything, we knew everything about eachother. We just sort of instantly clicked. All this time though I have had a crush on him. I think it has gotten worse as I see him alot more frequently and we talk to eachother etc. We've crossed boundaries aswell, like we've been drunk and been naked together, and laddy things like that. He used to be uncomforable with things because he thought I fancied him, but with me denying that and with him getting used to me now he doesn't think I do and is fully comfortable around me, even though I still do have a crush on him. The thing is though he is straight, and is in a long term relationship with his girlfriend.

So what I'm asking is how I can deal with the feeling and potentially get over him. Like I treasure this friendship, we are really good friends, and I wouldn't want to ruin it, or distance myself from him or anything like that, as he relies on me as much as I do him. It's obviously never going to happen between us for multiple reasons, but is there any advice on how to deal with the feeling. Like I'm starting to talk to someone and I do like them, I could see it working, but I feel like I like my best friend more and I don't know how that'll intefere with my love life. Sorry if this is convoluted but any advice would be grateful :)
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Re: I have a crush on my straight friend whos in a relationship

Unread postby Derek » 9 November 2019, 19:37

Start carrying around a spray bottle of water, and every time you catch yourself thinking an inappropriate thought about him, spray yourself in the face. Like how you teach a cat to stop scratching furniture.
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Re: I have a crush on my straight friend whos in a relationship

Unread postby Brasileiro » 10 November 2019, 12:51

You know nothing is going to happen. The only thing that really helps is falling in love with someone else, so if I were you I would start dating.
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Re: I have a crush on my straight friend whos in a relationship

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 26 November 2019, 06:52

I agree. Your best bet is to start dating. Also, if you feel this strongly about him, avoid being naked together. He sees it as innocent - because you have led him to believe that it is - so it doesn't bother him. For you, it's surely enjoyable but also torture. Seeing that much more of someone you can never have.
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Re: I have a crush on my straight friend whos in a relationship

Unread postby Eryx » 26 November 2019, 08:13

Get an actual boyfriend
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