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Unread postby Martian » 6 May 2019, 17:20

Hello everyone!
It's been long time i haven't been there. I think I'm suffering from something multiple :cry: .

First, I think i might have some shyness on me and i'm form Turkey, and 26 yo. In my country, people talk about marriage, being bf/gf many times a day... I try to dissappear in the world at those times because they also ask me about my life, too. They're like ''Mr. X dont you think of getting married? Do you have a gf?'' and many other questions...

Second, I'm suffering from loneliness... It doesnt matter if it's a friend, bf or one night stand but I think im looking to communicate someone like me, who is gay. I think of going to a gay bar but I dont have it in my town. I can even consider changing the city for one two days but the thing is that I think i dont have courage to go those places and I'm exteremely shy. Also, some people say I really have good confidence (I dont ask them if i have confidence, they just say it) but I dont think I'm the person I look from ourside. I feel that i dont have self-confidence. How can I step further and leave loneliness behind?
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Unread postby Lil.rafaxz » 17 July 2019, 05:45

Uffff te entiendo, en mi caso muy poca gente sabe se mi bisexualidad y a veces es un poco duro no poder decir nada a nadie y sentirte solo en esto, pero yo te recomendaría ir a eso lugares por que por lo menos te sentirás en un lugar de personas como tú y así no sentirte tan agobiado y solo
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Martian » 17 July 2019, 07:12

Lil.rafaxz wrote:Uffff te entiendo, en mi caso muy poca gente sabe se mi bisexualidad y a veces es un poco duro no poder decir nada a nadie y sentirte solo en esto, pero yo te recomendaría ir a eso lugares por que por lo menos te sentirás en un lugar de personas como tú y así no sentirte tan agobiado y solo




¡gracias! Fui a una de las fiestas que tienen. fue realmente divertido pero me sentí solo porque todos tenían un círculo de amigos.
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Jryski » 18 July 2019, 06:06

Wait.... they speak spanish in turkey? :0 Hola mi llamo Kchay! That's all I know ^_^;
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Lil.rafaxz » 18 July 2019, 06:44

Por lo menos yo no soy de Turquía jdjdjdjdjd
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Martian » 18 July 2019, 07:47

Jryski wrote:Wait.... they speak spanish in turkey? :0 Hola mi llamo Kchay! That's all I know ^_^;



nah, it was just Google Translate haha. and Google Translate sometimes makes huge mistakes, I hope i didnt unintentionally swear at people :D .
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Unread postby Eryx » 18 July 2019, 16:53

Que bueno los días de hoy en que podemos hablar en lenguas diferentes y traducir las mesajes tan perfectamente que la compreension es facil. Google Translator ha mejorado mucho.
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Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 18 July 2019, 17:09

Eryx wrote:Google Translator ha mejorado mucho.
Realmente ha mejorado recientemente. Recuerdo cuando cambiaría por completo lo que escribiste, si intentabas cambiarlo nuevamente para ver si era correcto.

Anyway @Martian I think you really really do need a change of scene. I know that's scary but if you feel your place isn't liberalising quick enough, then if I was in your position, I'd seriously consider moving. I know that's much, much easier said than done but still it's not impossible.

You're still quite young as well, there's time.
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Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 18 July 2019, 17:20

Have you guys downloaded the Google Translate app? Google bought out this other company whose app I used to use to translate signs and such just by using my phone’s camera. The Google Translate app has the feature! :awesome: Make sure you select the camera option and then click “instant” at the bottom for real-time translations on the images themselves!
Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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Unread postby Eryx » 18 July 2019, 17:40

I've used it, quite impressive indeed!!
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 July 2019, 00:07

The biggest hurtles in life are the ones we put in front of ourselves. Simply stop creating barriers that don't really exist and you'll be way better off.
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Eryx » 19 July 2019, 03:11

Did you just read the first post and assume everything else?
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Derek » 19 July 2019, 03:23

My most sincere advice is that you need to meet other gay people, be it through the internet or whatever. You feel lonely because you are. None of us got to a point where we were comfortable with ourselves without the benefit of the relationships we built with each other and other supportive people. It's bound to be extremely difficult in a country that probably has no visible gay community outside Istanbul, but that's just the situation you're in.
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Eryx » 19 July 2019, 03:27

Come on Derek, are you guys serious? Memorize the usernames and dates. Martian made this complaint before he was able to experience being around gay people. He went to Istanbul's pride after this thread and he's going through a different time. His words from the first post aren't relevant anymore. He's on his path. It's all good.
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Unread postby Derek » 19 July 2019, 03:30

Well I didn't read that part because I don't speak French.
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Eryx » 19 July 2019, 03:39

Pardon, mon ami
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Martian » 19 July 2019, 15:49

Eryx wrote:Que bueno los días de hoy en que podemos hablar en lenguas diferentes y traducir las mesajes tan perfectamente que la compreension es facil. Google Translator ha mejorado mucho.


Sí, ha sido una gran mejora. Además, verifiqué algunas cifras (números) sobre qué porcentaje se traduce correctamente del turco al inglés. Fue hasta el 80%.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 July 2019, 15:52

Eryx wrote:Did you just read the first post and assume everything else?


I din't look at the OP date. So yeah, now that you mention it he's made good progress and the OP is not relevant at this time. Another reason to dislike when people dredge up an old post and comment like it's new. You just assume it new...
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Martian » 19 July 2019, 15:53

Derek wrote:My most sincere advice is that you need to meet other gay people, be it through the internet or whatever. You feel lonely because you are. None of us got to a point where we were comfortable with ourselves without the benefit of the relationships we built with each other and other supportive people. It's bound to be extremely difficult in a country that probably has no visible gay community outside Istanbul, but that's just the situation you're in.


Actually, we're not totally invisible. we did pride march. police officers stopped people, though. Also, on that day, people had LGBT flags on their t-shirts, hands, and necks, some even had lgbt make-up. Some men wore only skirt and bra.
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Re: I have a screwed up life

Unread postby Martian » 19 July 2019, 15:54

mxguy01 wrote:
Eryx wrote:Did you just read the first post and assume everything else?


I din't look at the OP date. So yeah, now that you mention it he's made good progress and the OP is not relevant at this time. Another reason to dislike when people dredge up an old post and comment like it's new. You just assume it new...


Thanks for your support :) . I actually still need someone to instill me in courage. I honestly always do that...
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