I’m a Preachers kid with this going on in my life rn

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I’m a Preachers kid with this going on in my life rn

Unread postby New95th » 28 June 2020, 22:19

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Re: I’m a Preachers kid with this going on in my life rn

Unread postby Eryx » 29 June 2020, 14:19

I'm a very cautious person, so most of the time, when I see a thread like this, my first suggestion is "try to move on." Relationships can be really difficult when one person is clearly giving more of themselves than the other.

Of course this can change. I thought my boyfriend was gorgeous when I met him, but I didn't feel that much of a spark. I began to like him more and more as I got to know him better and got to do things with him. The feelings I have for him right now are unparalleled to anyone I've been with before, to the point where sometimes I get scared with how it would be for me if I lost him somehow. Loving is fucking scary.

But none of us here can promise you that this is what's going to happen. You are the only one who can tell if this is possible, or if this is worth pursuing. We don't know you or him enough to assess that for you.

If you think you're going to continue getting hurt, gather your strength to get him out of your life for a while and keep doing other things. Forget his number in a way that you can't get it back unless he calls you. Be honest with him that things aren't working for you the way they are. He said he's scared things will change if you guys compromise, so he likes this dynamic of hooking up with you whenever he wants and being free to be with other people. But this dynamic isn't working for you, so it has to change whether he's scared about it or not.
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Re: I’m a Preachers kid with this going on in my life rn

Unread postby Frigid » 29 June 2020, 15:15

Have you talked about the fundamentals of your relationship with him? What it is you both want, where you would like to see it go, what you’re willing to do for it, what are the barriers? What I read just seemed like you getting carried away with yourself and your check points are all just insults to yourself rather than practical steps to communicate with him.

If he can’t engage in these basics, then painfully move on.
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