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Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 03:50

I work at a retail store in the US, only about 20-30 minutes from Canada. Canadians come in all the time for lower prices and taxes on groceries. This one man comes in pretty regularly. He's a 53 year old man, wealthy, and drives a new Mercedes. Mind you all, I've never actually had a personal encounter with a guy where I have been turned on, or felt something with him before. We talked for about a half hour the first time we met. We had good eye contact, but I sensed him feeling a bit nervous. After he left, I went outside for an unrelated reason, and he hands me his business card with his personal cell phone number already written on it and says "let's get some drinks next time you're in Canada."Over the last month or so I've probably seen him about 7 times. he'll come chat me up when i'm not busy doing something. the other day he whispered "discount?" winking at me, which I of course gave to him. Every time he comes in, he makes a point to find and say hi to me, no matter his business. I also recently discovered he's going through a divorce. Maybe I am just overthinking this whole story, but I'm curious to know, do you guys think he'd be interested in more than just talking as straight guys over some drinks for an hour?
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Jzone » 19 November 2019, 06:01

You're 23, he's 53 — yes, he wants more than just talking. Why the fuck does a wealthy Canadian driving a new Mercedes need to cross the border for lower grocery prices and taxes? He's a cheap Canuk, and he wants some American ass on the side — your American ass. I'm sure he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he is nice enough, just needy. Choose wisely.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 November 2019, 06:27

Jzone wrote:You're 23, he's 53 — yes, he wants more than just talking. Why the fuck does a wealthy Canadian driving a new Mercedes need to cross the border for lower grocery prices and taxes? He's a cheap Canuk, and he wants some American ass on the side — your American ass. I'm sure he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he is nice enough, just needy. Choose wisely.

So an older guy talking to an younger guy automatically and absolutely equates to the older guy only wanting sex?

I don't think my moto buddies are gonna like hearing this news.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Jzone » 19 November 2019, 06:33

mxguy01 wrote:So an older guy talking to an younger guy automatically and absolutely equates to the older guy only wanting sex?

I don't think my moto buddies are gonna like hearing this news.

:lol:
Cool your carburetor, Marty. I only meant that in context of the attention this guy was paying to our young hero. I have friends that age I don't expect to have sex with. (I may be undressing some of them in my mind, but that's fair.)
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 07:42

Jzone wrote:You're 23, he's 53 — yes, he wants more than just talking. Why the fuck does a wealthy Canadian driving a new Mercedes need to cross the border for lower grocery prices and taxes? He's a cheap Canuk, and he wants some American ass on the side — your American ass. I'm sure he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he is nice enough, just needy. Choose wisely.


Hey Jzone, thanks for your reply and input. It's a great introduction to my time here seeing a reply so fast!

To be fair, gasoline is approximately half the cost per gallon, and milk is about half the price. And many other products. But with the cost of gas and driving/waiting at the border, some Canadians have told me you practically break even. But some of them say its well worth the trip economically.

I totally get what you're saying, as anyone trying to get someone to do something, or to have sex with, would sure act the same way.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 07:45

mxguy01 wrote:
Jzone wrote:You're 23, he's 53 — yes, he wants more than just talking. Why the fuck does a wealthy Canadian driving a new Mercedes need to cross the border for lower grocery prices and taxes? He's a cheap Canuk, and he wants some American ass on the side — your American ass. I'm sure he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he is nice enough, just needy. Choose wisely.

So an older guy talking to an younger guy automatically and absolutely equates to the older guy only wanting sex?

I don't think my moto buddies are gonna like hearing this news.


Hey mxguy01,

I really appreciate your fast reply, and it's nice to meet you. You have a good point, sometimes people that are really into a hobby just click with others that share the same interest.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 08:04

I need to clarify my question, I apologize for my ambiguity.

---Specifically, I was wondering if you guys think that he is sexually attracted to me and his invitation already said of getting drinks next time I was in Canada, will lead to escalation; or is it possible that I am completely overthinking this and that he is just a friendly guy that enjoys talking with me platonically?

---Also, when I meet with him, how should I dress? I know that is probably a really dumb question because the idea is to look nice, however, with him being an older guy and me being 30 years younger, and the date being us 2 men, I'm just curious how you guys would dress for the occasion, if you were to be in my situation?

---One last thing I'd like to mention is that I know I can't control what others say/do, only myself. However, I would like to keep this completely discrete from anyone finding out, because heck, I might spend the night with him and not be attracted to guys physically (I really think that given good circumstances, in my first experience, I probably will be ;) ). But just to be safe and also even if I do actually enjoy physical intimacy with men after my first time, I still would not want anyone to find out, or at least not on my terms. I'm just concerned considering he comes into my work that I don't know someone would find out or something would be really weird at work.


All that said, the idea of hanging out with/going on a date with an attractive, nice, and also wealthy, 53 year old man, and to potentially spend the night together, in another country, where discretion would be far easier to attain, is very, very intriguing to me. I am not saying one bit that I am certainly correct on my beleifs of his character; however my gut feeling says he's a good person and means well.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Brasileiro » 19 November 2019, 10:36

Richard932 wrote:---Specifically, I was wondering if you guys think that he is sexually attracted to me and his invitation already said of getting drinks next time I was in Canada, will lead to escalation; or is it possible that I am completely overthinking this and that he is just a friendly guy that enjoys talking with me platonically?
Could be either and you can only be sure when you actually ASK HIM. Tell him what you should think of it, that you are not good at taking hints. No shame in that. I do it all the time and people love honesty. But to be honest, usually drinks means a follow up in bed.

---Also, when I meet with him, how should I dress? I know that is probably a really dumb question because the idea is to look nice, however, with him being an older guy and me being 30 years younger, and the date being us 2 men, I'm just curious how you guys would dress for the occasion, if you were to be in my situation?
Depens on where you are going. Dress up when you are going to a posh place, but if not, just pull something out of the closet that you would wear hanging out with friends. He in interested in YOU not your wardrobe. as long as it is clean and it fits, it is fine. If you want true consulting you can send me a pm with pictures, I am a personal shopper and dress people all the time. But you should not wear something you are not comfortable in, physically or mentally.

---One last thing I'd like to mention is that I know I can't control what others say/do, only myself. However, I would like to keep this completely discrete from anyone finding out, because heck, I might spend the night with him and not be attracted to guys physically (I really think that given good circumstances, in my first experience, I probably will be ;) ). But just to be safe and also even if I do actually enjoy physical intimacy with men after my first time, I still would not want anyone to find out, or at least not on my terms. I'm just concerned considering he comes into my work that I don't know someone would find out or something would be really weird at work.
People will talk. There will always be those who will make jokes about it, but nobody can be sure because they were not there, so you can always deny. It is not uncommon to stay over somewhere as friends. Just do not be secretive or giggly about it and they will not suspect anything. You can tell them you went over and he had like super big TV screen or an awesome view from the house or you had a special liquor or you talked about whatever. If you give them some general details like that, it comes across as normal. If you try to avoid the subject, they will get suspicious.
And know that most men have had moments of gay intimacy in their younger years or seek it when they are adults. It is one of those things nobody talks about or they pretend it never happened, but believe me if they do not have it, they dream about it.

I hope things turn out great for you, and keep us posted!
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 11:11

Brasileiro wrote:
Richard932 wrote:---Specifically, I was wondering if you guys think that he is sexually attracted to me and his invitation already said of getting drinks next time I was in Canada, will lead to escalation; or is it possible that I am completely overthinking this and that he is just a friendly guy that enjoys talking with me platonically?
Could be either and you can only be sure when you actually ASK HIM. Tell him what you should think of it, that you are not good at taking hints. No shame in that. I do it all the time and people love honesty. But to be honest, usually drinks means a follow up in bed.

---Also, when I meet with him, how should I dress? I know that is probably a really dumb question because the idea is to look nice, however, with him being an older guy and me being 30 years younger, and the date being us 2 men, I'm just curious how you guys would dress for the occasion, if you were to be in my situation?
Depens on where you are going. Dress up when you are going to a posh place, but if not, just pull something out of the closet that you would wear hanging out with friends. He in interested in YOU not your wardrobe. as long as it is clean and it fits, it is fine. If you want true consulting you can send me a pm with pictures, I am a personal shopper and dress people all the time. But you should not wear something you are not comfortable in, physically or mentally.

---One last thing I'd like to mention is that I know I can't control what others say/do, only myself. However, I would like to keep this completely discrete from anyone finding out, because heck, I might spend the night with him and not be attracted to guys physically (I really think that given good circumstances, in my first experience, I probably will be ;) ). But just to be safe and also even if I do actually enjoy physical intimacy with men after my first time, I still would not want anyone to find out, or at least not on my terms. I'm just concerned considering he comes into my work that I don't know someone would find out or something would be really weird at work.
People will talk. There will always be those who will make jokes about it, but nobody can be sure because they were not there, so you can always deny. It is not uncommon to stay over somewhere as friends. Just do not be secretive or giggly about it and they will not suspect anything. You can tell them you went over and he had like super big TV screen or an awesome view from the house or you had a special liquor or you talked about whatever. If you give them some general details like that, it comes across as normal. If you try to avoid the subject, they will get suspicious.
And know that most men have had moments of gay intimacy in their younger years or seek it when they are adults. It is one of those things nobody talks about or they pretend it never happened, but believe me if they do not have it, they dream about it.

I hope things turn out great for you, and keep us posted!


Hi Brasileiro,

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and honest insight.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 November 2019, 16:36

Jzone wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:So an older guy talking to an younger guy automatically and absolutely equates to the older guy only wanting sex?

I don't think my moto buddies are gonna like hearing this news.

:lol:
Cool your carburetor, Marty. I only meant that in context of the attention this guy was paying to our young hero. I have friends that age I don't expect to have sex with. (I may be undressing some of them in my mind, but that's fair.)


Hehe. Yeah, just poking fun at you. You being of course entirely correct given the context. Putting the younger-older thing aside...

Just had a conversation with my sister in law. Turns out she actually went on a date. I didn't think that would ever happen seeing as my brother was her only ever. Anyways, I had to explain that she she was asked to hookup on her lunch date. She took it quite well. It was a big step for her and me being me said she should ask her daughter to help her set up a profile on an app.

So let's spell it out, the dude is crossing the border to grab ass in a place he is not known. Simple. Most likely reason? Well the answer to that is likely cheating, whoring, etc. Yeah, listen to the story. Maybe, just maybe he has some other legit reason. Likely you'll be telling yourself in the back of your mind "run". Listen to that inner voice.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 November 2019, 16:51

So this along with your intro, you're a straight guy looking to experiment. Cool. Hey, if this guy interests you, it's obvious he is interested in you. From there, we can all guess if the chemistry is working or not but really it's for you to determine that. So if you're looking for that opportunity to experiment, yes, this guy is clearly signaling it is a go. But as I pointed out, he's likely looking to play out of his area so your thinking of traveling to him (?) likely is not what he is thinking.

That being said. If you're looking to experiment and want to not do so in your area, I'd suggest an gay vacation so to speak.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 18:26

Hey mx, thanks again for your replies man. I appreciate your insight on both the likelihood of him being sexually interested in me weighed equally with looking at the whole picture with a clear mind and seeing if my gut tells me to do it.

Maybe I'm just overthinking it, and I much rather would trust your opinion on having more experience, but I see him as making the initiation on wanting to meet in his territory by stating "next time you're in Canada, let's get drinks." Not asking to meet up next time he's here in the US.

Would it be alright if I PM you and we talk more about this? You've been super helpful
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 18:28

mxguy01 wrote:
Jzone wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:So an older guy talking to an younger guy automatically and absolutely equates to the older guy only wanting sex?

I don't think my moto buddies are gonna like hearing this news.

:lol:
Cool your carburetor, Marty. I only meant that in context of the attention this guy was paying to our young hero. I have friends that age I don't expect to have sex with. (I may be undressing some of them in my mind, but that's fair.)


Hehe. Yeah, just poking fun at you. You being of course entirely correct given the context. Putting the younger-older thing aside...

Just had a conversation with my sister in law. Turns out she actually went on a date. I didn't think that would ever happen seeing as my brother was her only ever. Anyways, I had to explain that she she was asked to hookup on her lunch date. She took it quite well. It was a big step for her and me being me said she should ask her daughter to help her set up a profile on an app.

So let's spell it out, the dude is crossing the border to grab ass in a place he is not known. Simple. Most likely reason? Well the answer to that is likely cheating, whoring, etc. Yeah, listen to the story. Maybe, just maybe he has some other legit reason. Likely you'll be telling yourself in the back of your mind "run". Listen to that inner voice.


Thanks mx, I know you were :)
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 November 2019, 18:55

Richard932 wrote:Hey mx, thanks again for your replies man. I appreciate your insight on both the likelihood of him being sexually interested in me weighed equally with looking at the whole picture with a clear mind and seeing if my gut tells me to do it.

Maybe I'm just overthinking it, and I much rather would trust your opinion on having more experience, but I see him as making the initiation on wanting to meet in his territory by stating "next time you're in Canada, let's get drinks." Not asking to meet up next time he's here in the US.

Would it be alright if I PM you and we talk more about this? You've been super helpful


First, and maybe I wasn't clear before, it's important for you to trust what you think, based upon... Sure, get opinions here but when time comes it's all up to you.

Actually, your right. He is inviting you there. So, why not another date in his area. You can decide if that date might lead to the next step, rather quickly if you want is my guess. In other words I think you're likely score if you choose to pursue it. Honestly it is apparent you want to do it. <- Completely nothing wrong in that!

As far as PMs, better to not. You're better getting broad advice which then you can be more selective about the advice.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Richard932 » 19 November 2019, 21:25

mxguy01 wrote:
Richard932 wrote:Hey mx, thanks again for your replies man. I appreciate your insight on both the likelihood of him being sexually interested in me weighed equally with looking at the whole picture with a clear mind and seeing if my gut tells me to do it.

Maybe I'm just overthinking it, and I much rather would trust your opinion on having more experience, but I see him as making the initiation on wanting to meet in his territory by stating "next time you're in Canada, let's get drinks." Not asking to meet up next time he's here in the US.

Would it be alright if I PM you and we talk more about this? You've been super helpful


First, and maybe I wasn't clear before, it's important for you to trust what you think, based upon... Sure, get opinions here but when time comes it's all up to you.

Actually, your right. He is inviting you there. So, why not another date in his area. You can decide if that date might lead to the next step, rather quickly if you want is my guess. In other words I think you're likely score if you choose to pursue it. Honestly it is apparent you want to do it. <- Completely nothing wrong in that!

As far as PMs, better to not. You're better getting broad advice which then you can be more selective about the advice.


Thanks again, mx :)
You have a really good point on getting the ideas of multiple heads (no pun intended) on what’s going on, rather than just PMing.

I’m probably being very repetitive in clarifying that this would be our first time meeting up, referencing you saying “another date in his area.”

I already told him I’m heading up to Canada this weekend and that we should get some drinks and he said “you bet.” I’m planning on heading up Saturday night. I’m not going up with the expectation of spending the night at his place, although that’d be ideal. How, and how soon before this Saturday you think I should bring up me coming up and a time?

And I may sound crazy for wanting to but I’ve been thinking about waxing the front and back of my pelvic area to look nice for him. My question would be wouldn’t most older guys especially be attracted to that in a younger guy?
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 November 2019, 23:25

Text him now. The longer you wait the more the chance he'll have other plans. Why am I have to tell a 24 y/o how to date (or score getting laid).

Figure a look that works for you. Hey if you can pull off "smooth, slim twink" go for it. Pull that off well enough and the general consensus on here is that you'll have to beat off old guys with a stick to survive. Me, I go for guys who can pull off a look and not look completely stupid in doing so. Well I have other qualifications as well; I can be a bit picky, because I can. The first reason I'll pitch a guy from consideration is when his personality is false.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Jzone » 19 November 2019, 23:56

In the words of the inimitable Billy Joel — "Don't go shaving to try and please me." If you like the idea of being waxed and that's how you want to appear to a guy, then go for it. Just do it now so your skin is not all pink and puffy on Saturday. (Not speaking from experience here.) If you are trying to predict what he wants, I say skip it. I prefer guys who don't look like they just grew out of diapers, but that's just me.

I didn't catch on initially that you were hoping that meeting up with him would turn sexual. Since that's the case, and your gut feeling is that he is ok, I say go for it. Just start in a public place (like a bar) until you're sure you are comfortable with him. You may only get a couple free drinks and some sage advice from an elder Canadian. Or he might keep you up all night. Either way, good luck with it.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby René » 21 November 2019, 23:24

Richard932 wrote:And I may sound crazy for wanting to but I’ve been thinking about waxing the front and back of my pelvic area to look nice for him. My question would be wouldn’t most older guys especially be attracted to that in a younger guy?

Can't speak for older guys, but there are few things that turn me off more :P
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Unread postby Jryski » 22 November 2019, 15:54

Unless he specifically said that he likes a completely smooth crotch, I think a sinple trim would suffice.
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