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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 24 November 2019, 16:32

I had no idea, as usual. I would have thought the guy likes a platonic conversation and would go for some broski bonding of sorts, regardless of ages. I would never have guessed at a hint that he could be gay in context to the initial posting. But then. I have to watch and talk to people for a very long time, before making assumptions, and NT folks probably read way more para-linguistic signals that may be expressed.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 25 November 2019, 13:18

Could go either way. Maybe he's just being friendly and likes the company. Alternatively, he could be looking for something sexual. Best case, all of the above. Ask yourself, what do you want to happen, if anything? If you're hoping for something sexual, which could be construed based on your comment about spending the night with a man in a foreign country, then maybe ask him directly? If you don't want to do that, try some subtle physical contact. Lightly brushing your hand against his etc.
One thing to be cautious of though is that since he's going through a divorce, he may not be thinking too clearly. That could end up ruining a relationship, should one develop at this point in time.
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 25 November 2019, 16:37

[quote="Richard932"]I already told him I’m heading up to Canada this weekend and that we should get some drinks and he said “you bet.” I’m planning on heading up Saturday night. I’m not going up with the expectation of spending the night at his place, although that’d be ideal. How, and how soon before this Saturday you think I should bring up me coming up and a time?[/qoute]

So what happened?
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Re: I'm curious and wondering on a man's intentions

Unread postby Eryx » 26 November 2019, 02:29

Capt._Trips wrote:
Richard932 wrote:I already told him I’m heading up to Canada this weekend and that we should get some drinks and he said “you bet.” I’m planning on heading up Saturday night. I’m not going up with the expectation of spending the night at his place, although that’d be ideal. How, and how soon before this Saturday you think I should bring up me coming up and a time?
So what happened?
Yeah, we wanna know! And also, you should always let people know that you're coming. He could've invited you out of his own will, and he could have prepared for you to come (meaning, cleaning up his schedule, making dinner arrangements, thinking about where you could go...).

It's always wise to let people know that you're coming!
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