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I really need some advice. PLEASE!!!

Unread postby Dcod » 17 August 2019, 11:04

Hello everyone,

I need some advice as right know I don’t know what to do.

I am 25 years old and I live in New Zealand since 4 years ago.
I moved to New Zealand with a close friend from same city and we both still here. But after a year I just fall in love with him.
I told him that I am gay and a few months after I got on my computer history that he is actually watching gay porn and I have seen him before looking a few guys when we were out.

Anyways. We still friends and it’s been 3 years that I can’t take him out of my mind. He probably now that I love him.

Right now I don’t know what to do. I feel really bad right now. I don’t wanna do anything. As he is my friend I don’t wanna lose his friendship but I also don’t wanna lose the opportunity in having someone that I love on my side. I know that I could end without any of that. But this is taking all my energy.

Please. Someone. Give me some advice!!!

I appreciate you time reading all of this.

Many Thanks,

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Re: I really need some advice. PLEASE!!!

Unread postby lightnight » 17 August 2019, 11:31

Hey, I'll start by reminding that there's another section of the forum by the name of 'Relationships' which is dedicated for posts like yours, i.e. about romantic relationships and relationships with friends and family.

About your problem, I think that even if your friend is gay or bi or curious, it's entirely possible that they don't see you as their type.
Just like every straight man and woman don't find each other as their type, even if they're living together or are friends.

Of course, this means that you can still find someone else who you find attractive and who is into you as well! Downloading a dating app and setting up a profile on it might be a start (if you haven't done that already).
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Unread postby NvM » 17 August 2019, 15:10

you know; before you love another person you need to be completely in love with your self.
acknowledge your the most important person in the room.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 17 August 2019, 16:38

As mentioned, get an app or go about moving on in some way. Hey, if he gets jealous or shows some other sign you can change course but years = time for you to look elsewhere.
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Unread postby Eryx » 21 August 2019, 18:07

If he's gay and you think he already knows, he's probably not interested in you the same way. I agree you should try to move on.

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