I tried flirting with a huge guy at a gym, do you think I did well?

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I tried flirting with a huge guy at a gym, do you think I did well?

Unread postby Michael96 » 23 December 2018, 11:24

I have been secretly interested in a man at my gym for a couple weeks now, and I think that he has taught me looking at him and smiling at him a bit a few times.
This guy is really huge - he is probably about 6'8, and he has massive natural-looking muscles all over him (I really love how broad-shouldered he is, and how big his arms are, for example), and he just looks stunning in general.
But I have always been intimidated by him, since he is more than a head taller than I am (I could easily rest my head on his chest even if I stood on my tip toes), and I am also not muscular at all (I am slender and soft), so he felt quite scary, lol.

Anyway, this is what I did:
I stood some distance away and looked at him for a while, glancing carefully at him with kind eyes and a shy smile, and then I went up to him and was like "excuse me, I was wondering... what's your name?", and then we introduced us to each other.
I then continued to try and have a conversation with him, although I fidgeted a bit and stuttered, since I was still inrimidated by him.
I then told him that I was a bit curious of how he trained, and added that I could tell that be definitely knew what he was doing.
He smiled a bit, and started showing me a few of his exercises, and when he grabbed one of the heaviest dumbbells and luften it like nothing I was like "...oh, wow", and said to him "oh dear, you are super-strong" and started at him with large eyes while he was lifting.
He then told me "come on, try it", and I couldn't even lift it off the ground, not even with both hands.
Then he laughed kindly and replaced it for me (with one hand, very easily), and patted me one time on the waist (I loved that, he could have left his hand there without a problem - I was already fantasising about passionately making out with him there) and told me that I will have to train (but I think both of us knew perfectly well that he is just naturally much stronger than I am).
He showed me a few more of his exercises, and he always outclassed me on every one of them, but he was always kind and just teased me a bit for fun.
I said that I didn't want to be a bother to him, like "I am sorry if I am being a bother, if I am then..." and then he cut me off and exclaimed "OH no, it's cool", and then I smiled a bit and nodded, and he gave me a playfully cocky smile back.

After maybe 20 minutes I told him that I had to leave, and asked him if he felt like giving me some extra tips next week.
He said yes to that, and seemed to be aware that I was interested in him.
Then when I left, he continued lifting as if nothing had happened.

What do you think about this?
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Re: I tried flirting with a huge guy at a gym, do you think I did well

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 23 December 2018, 16:31

Sounds like a cool encounter, and the fella seems to be a nice person. Might make a good training partner. :thumbsup:
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Unread postby Eryx » 23 December 2018, 20:37

So cool it's almost like a story! Keep us updated! :)
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Unread postby Victor_Laszlo » 23 December 2018, 23:41

Yeah i wouldn't think of it as anything more then just 2 guy's chatting at the Gym. Might turn into a good gym friendship. He might even be able to show you better techniques when working out.

But nothing sounds like there's any sexual attraction coming from him.

The gym doesn't seem like an obvious choice to look for other gay guys. And it's not the smartest thing to stare at other people. So might want to be more careful with that.
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Unread postby dicksonllee » 24 December 2018, 05:20

I never flirted with anyone before so I couldn't answer your question (and nobody flirted with me either, not that I know of). But is this what flirting looks like? Seems very simple...

Edit: I prefer the "you look like a worthy partner, let's mate" approach.

Edit: Which is why I'm still single.
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 24 December 2018, 20:59

The best flirting is normal everyday conversation. I'm assuming we are all very capable of that. I'll give you an example. I was in a gay bar yesterday. The guy beside me asked if I was for the 49'ers or for the Bears as they were playing on one TV. I replied neither as I was really watching Pittsburgh Steelers vs New Orleans playing on the TV beside the other. OMG he must have been flirting and his partner was sitting right beside him. LoL. His partner was from Cleveland (another rival team of the Steelers). I mention I just seen something about Roberto Clemente.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roberto_Clemente

I remember watching him play as a very young kid. Turned out the guy I was talking to was Puerto Rican. So I only had to start out with "well then I guess you know his story or you should". He was well aware of the tragic way his life ended. A pretty cool example of a professional sports figure.

Anyways, to your point, pretty simple and even better, you don't have to make it complicated at all.

To the OP. You did well. Keep it up. Maybe you made a friend and one never knows where a chance encounter may lead... Keep us posted!
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Re: I tried flirting with a huge guy at a gym, do you think I did well

Unread postby lightnight » 25 December 2018, 05:59

It doesn't seem like he's into you. He's just being courteous. Lots of people like helping out others in the gym. It doesn't mean they want to hook up with them. Especially for gay sex, because we're a fraction of the general human population.
Just get a hookup app and try to find a big guy of your preference over there! Eliminate this hassle of 'is he?, isn't he?'
Even straights use hookup apps for this reason, so why shouldn't you?
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Unread postby dicksonllee » 25 December 2018, 06:02

mxguy01 wrote:The best flirting is normal everyday conversation. I'm assuming we are all very capable of that. I'll give you an example. I was in a gay bar yesterday. The guy beside me asked if I was for the 49'ers or for the Bears as they were playing on one TV. I replied neither as I was really watching Pittsburgh Steelers vs New Orleans playing on the TV beside the other. OMG he must have been flirting and his partner was sitting right beside him. LoL. His partner was from Cleveland (another rival team of the Steelers).
By that definition it's really vague... So basically everyone is flirting with me everyday? :rofl:
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