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Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by him

Unread postby William00 » 9 June 2019, 08:40

I have been checking out a guy at my gym for a couple weeks now, and he is really gorgeous.
However, I find him quite intimidating for a couple reasons.
One reason is because he is so much larger than me - he must be at least like 6'8 whereas I am only 5'7.
And I have also noticed that he lifts weights that are a whole lot heavier than I have ever been able to manage myself - I saw him lift about 330 lbs on bench press and 460 lbs on deadlift very easily two days ago, which is quite a bit more than 3 times than I can do on one lift (I have a small build) and that definitely made him seem extra intimidating - and he also looks quite strict the whole time as well.
And the problem is that he seems to only be at the gym very early in the morning, when nobody else is there, and it does feel a bit scary to approach him all by myself, since I would have no chance against him if he turned out to dislike gays and became threatening in some way - and I certainly wouldn't want to be all alone with him in the dressing room.
I have actually found myself yielding for him a lot just because I don't want to provoke him, like for example let him go first if we are about to pass a doorway, even if I am there slightly before him, and I am always the one who steps aside very early if we are about to collide, and I mostly look down on the floor and only glance at him very quickly as often as I dare - basically I act super-submissive when he is nearby, and always avoid any sort of possibility that I would irritate him in any way at all.
So a part of me finds him gorgeous and highly attractive, and another part of me finds him scary and overpowering.

Do you know what I can do in order to "break the ice" in front of him?
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Re: Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by hi

Unread postby trywait » 11 June 2019, 01:39

ask him to spot you a set while doing bench press
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Re: Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by hi

Unread postby Jryski » 17 June 2019, 00:37

Haha yeah! I second that! :D
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Re: Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by hi

Unread postby mxguy01 » 17 June 2019, 19:36

trywait wrote:ask him to spot you a set while doing bench press


True fact: When I do a lot of sports, I do them with my mouth open. My ex pointed that out every time I played in a tennis tournament. Even this weekend I realized I ride moto with my mouth open. Which explains why sometimes I get dirt in my mouth when taking roost from someone during a pass. I was riding remarkably fast this weekend (even my moto buddy admitted it and no one admits willingly to another rider being way faster than you). So I just kept riding that way. I'm serious that it is a thing with me when playing sports and I get intense about it.

So now, imagine me bench pressing while some hot guy is spotting me. OMG anyone who seen that would just assume I'm 1000% gay male slut.
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Re: Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by hi

Unread postby JoelR » 19 June 2019, 13:44

Don't come across as gay. Don't bat your eyelashes, have a limp wrist, or try to flirt with him. Just be another guy at the gym who is looking to get tips on working out.

OR you can be the flaming homo at the gym who tries to hit on the hot guys.
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Unread postby Eryx » 19 June 2019, 14:24

Which works just as well, when two are alone in a locker room.
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Re: Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by hi

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 June 2019, 16:23

Ok, so your looking to limit the encounter initially. Simply ask for tips or commentary on your technique for weight lifting. Just say your looking to improve and want to make sure your lifting correctly. Now it is simply just a natural conversation.

Now if being overly camp as some call it is you, be that way. Pretending to be something your not generally will not work out. Hell, he may just go head-over-heals for the shy gay guy routine. If he's not into who your are what would you want with him anyways.

After you see how that interaction goes, you decide the next appropriate step.
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Re: Interested in a very hot guy at my gym, but I am intimidated by hi

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 19 June 2019, 21:48

JoelR wrote:Don't come across as gay. Don't bat your eyelashes, have a limp wrist, or try to flirt with him. Just be another guy at the gym who is looking to get tips on working out.

OR you can be the flaming homo at the gym who tries to hit on the hot guys.

Why not a more neutral approach? Perhaps he could go up to him and say, “Greeting fellow gymgoer. I am a practicing homosexual and have noticed from across the room that you are quite attractive. Would you be interested in intimate physical contact and the exchange of bodily fluids?” Honesty is the best policy and so is being clear and direct. I’m sure he’d respond favorably.
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