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Is he interested in me?

Unread postby tritonus94 » 19 November 2022, 19:49

Hello everyone!

I am currently in my first year at the academy of arts (2nd month since the start of classes). I'm interested in a guy, but I'm confused by his behavior. In class we sit next to each other, and often times in class he stretches and strokes his chest up and down, as if showing off. Several times, he ran his hand over his crotch (as if something itched). I often find him looking at me from across the room. I glared back, but out of shyness I looked away from him, while he continued to stare at me for a few more seconds.

I bought him a drink a couple of times, and we often go back home. He doesn't drink coffee, but he tried it a few days ago (maybe to please me). He accepts my compliments (I hugged him over the shoulder a couple of times, praising how smart he is, and he doesn't feel bothered by that). Few days ago, he congratulated me on passing the exam, and stroked my lower back. We joked with our college buddies about whether anyone has a girlfriend right now, but he persistently avoided answering, like "no, no, ..." Neither of us looks like the stereotypical gay guy, and friends think that we are straight.

Well, now comes the confusing part... He is sociable with everyone, a real social butterfly. I've seen him touching the necks of girls many times, and flirting with them. As of a couple of weeks ago, he stopped flirting with girls.. He is on good terms with everyone at the university. When we are with friends and talk, his level of treatment towards me drops quite low. I can't say that he ignores me, but... When we are alone, he talks about quite personal things with me (family, what he likes) even though we have only known each other for two months, and his voice seems much more pleasant. I wonder if he's interested in me, or if he's just being nice like he is with other people. Also, I'm curious as if to find out in a subtle way, is there something more between us? Since he "doesn't look" gay, there's no way I'm going to ask him outright, because I'm afraid I'll lose him as a friend. Sorry for the length of the text. Thanks!
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Re: Is he interested in me?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 19 November 2022, 19:54

Assuming he’s around your age, don’t date anyone that waits until that stage of his life to first try something as innocuous as coffee. He’s clearly some sort of cultural hermit, or a North Korean spy.
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Re: Is he interested in me?

Unread postby tritonus94 » 19 November 2022, 20:03

Marmaduke wrote:Assuming he’s around your age, don’t date anyone that waits until that stage of his life to first try something as innocuous as coffee. He’s clearly some sort of cultural hermit, or a North Korean spy.

Yes, I'm really confused, he doesn't drink any kind of coffee (because it's bitter). I suggested a cappuccino, or a latte, but he refused because he doesn't drink milk (maybe because of lactose). But he drinks beer. I don't think he's a twisted guy, he's an open guy. He got under my skin quite a bit. I am 5 years older than him, because I entered the academy later.
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