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Is it weird?

Unread postby Timidgay » 13 December 2020, 03:30

So I’m still a virgin and still in the closet. I want to meet someone but I don’t want to jump in the sac right away. I would like to build up to that special moment. I just don’t know where to start. Is it weird that I feel like this?
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby René » 13 December 2020, 03:47

It's certainly not weird to want to get to know someone (and maybe even start to care about each other) before having sex with him. What a thought! :P
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby rogonandi » 13 December 2020, 04:20

It’s not weird at all, but it sounds like you’re looking for a serious relationship and that’s probably going to be really difficult being in the closet.
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby Timidgay » 13 December 2020, 04:26

Thank you and I’m trying just need to build up the courage
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 13 December 2020, 06:10

Timidgay wrote:So I’m still a virgin and still in the closet. I want to meet someone but I don’t want to jump in the sac right away. I would like to build up to that special moment. I just don’t know where to start. Is it weird that I feel like this?


Not weird at all. It does read that you seem to be the romantic type of guy, and it makes you of interest to the ones that favour a real relationship over just meet & bang.

I can't say if that would need to live in 'the open' as a necessity. Men have found one another at places, and at times, where that was not an option.
It's more difficult, probably, I would guess. Have to take your time at your own pace. Finding friends can help to build up courage. :nod:
If ya want to hang with me, let's go windsurfing!

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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby Timidgay » 13 December 2020, 12:05

Thank you. I guess I am a romantic. I’ve never been windsurfing but I do love the water.
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby René » 13 December 2020, 13:32

Timidgay wrote:Thank you. I guess I am a romantic. I’ve never been windsurfing but I do love the water.

The windsurfing thing is just GFTR's signature, haha. :D
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby GearFetTwinkRomance » 13 December 2020, 15:32

René wrote:
Timidgay wrote:Thank you. I guess I am a romantic. I’ve never been windsurfing but I do love the water.

The windsurfing thing is just GFTR's signature, haha. :D


With Brenden's kind benevolence and you in the same country atm, if CoViD was not around, I'd rather advise him to hang with you guys, too ;)
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby René » 13 December 2020, 16:44

GearFetTwinkRomance wrote:CoViD

Your capitalisation scheme makes the disease sound quite a bit cooler than it is, haha :P
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby OutsideIn » 13 December 2020, 17:50

No, it’s not weird, and even if it was, who cares? As long as you are not harming yourself or others, it shouldn’t matter.

Having said that, it may not be easy. Finding a romantic relationship seems more difficult these days than finding a hookup. It will be even more difficult being in the closet.
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby Eryx » 14 December 2020, 22:41

Pretty normal at first. I felt the same. Then I found out there are way too many cute guys out there. Eventually I settled down. :P
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby Timidgay » 15 December 2020, 00:00

OutsideIn wrote:No, it’s not weird, and even if it was, who cares? As long as you are not harming yourself or others, it shouldn’t matter.

Having said that, it may not be easy. Finding a romantic relationship seems more difficult these days than finding a hookup. It will be even more difficult being in the closet.


Thank you, I’ve chatted with guys and it was a “quickie” I mean a real quick chat and away they go 🤪. I did have a few guys I chatted with who loved the build up. I like that and I think I’m worth it. I know it’s going to be hard to find. Thank you for your reply 😊
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby Timidgay » 15 December 2020, 00:03

Eryx wrote:Pretty normal at first. I felt the same. Then I found out there are way too many cute guys out there. Eventually I settled down. :P


Thank you for the reply. I know a lot of cuties 😍. I think I’m at the part of my life where I deserve more. I know it’s gonna be hard but I’m not giving up. Thank you again 😊
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby René » 15 December 2020, 23:13

Timidgay wrote:
Eryx wrote:Pretty normal at first. I felt the same. Then I found out there are way too many cute guys out there. Eventually I settled down. :P

Thank you for the reply. I know a lot of cuties 😍. I think I’m at the part of my life where I realise I deserve more. I know it’s gonna be hard but I’m not giving up. Thank you again 😊

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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby BooBooBear » 13 January 2021, 23:17

Yea, probably a bit weird but beautifully weird. It might be your best and worse quality.
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Re: Is it weird?

Unread postby Jryski » 14 January 2021, 16:10

I was the same way but I was in San Francisco so the discreet and not out thing didn’t make sense on top of me being a pretty discreet-ish person in general. I just do my own thing and don’t throw my business out there for everyone to know. I also have nothing that would identify me as “gay” since I don’t go around parading the fact that I am. If people asked, I’d tell them but if they don’t, then why bother? Turns out most of my coworkers thought that I was bi. xD After awhile, I’ve come to the realization that you’ll find the right guy when you do and that there’s really not much you can do since most of them are just looking for an easy lay. Conversations through the phone or online is a good way to start though.
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