Is there something wrong ?

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Re: Is there something wrong ?

Unread postby René » 18 May 2021, 08:40

I guess you'd better make real sure you're attracted to anyone you start a relationship with in the future :P

Also, you talk about love. I think to qualify as love, it has to be pretty unconditional. I loved Brenden when he was overweight, and I would still love our boyfriend if he gained weight. It's a connection that transcends the physical, if that makes sense.

Any standards you apply for physical fitness should probably be borne in mind before you start trying to form a connection with someone.

But hey, we all need some experiences to learn from. You just had one. You'll do better next time. :hug:
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Re: Is there something wrong ?

Unread postby Eos » 18 May 2021, 09:29

That's because I was thinking like you that I never really focused on appearance before. I mean I didn't go with people that I found ugly.

He wasn't ugly, he was just like many people I met before, "normal", I never feel physically attracted with most so that's why I thought it would have come naturally.

I mean sometimes I feel that some people are pretty good looking, but I usually don't connect with those people usually (often too young to know what they want/need).

And to be fair I genuinely couldn't tell I would never feel attracted with him. I was attracted to him before. I thought I would like to be with someone that is so much bigger than me. And I think I did. Up to the point I saw him naked.


" Also, you talk about love. I think to qualify as love, it has to be pretty unconditional. I loved Brenden when he was overweight, and I would still love our boyfriend if he gained weight. It's a connection that transcends the physical, if that makes sense. "

That's why I think I never really loved him.


But God, I just received a message from him, saying that he misses me. This kind of message just hurt so much... I don't even know what to answer.
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Re: Is there something wrong ?

Unread postby Eos » 18 May 2021, 11:46

Well that's it. The end between both of us. I hope we will find a way to see each other after we deal with ourselves...
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