Lack of experience holding me back

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Lack of experience holding me back

Unread postby BrianOM28 » 5 July 2020, 20:17

Hi,

I'm a 29 year old single male. I'm not quite asexual but I'm not really into anal. I like oral. If I had a partner and we didn't do anal, I'd be happy with that. I don't really have much sex drive, however I'd still like to try topping to see how it feels. I'm a big guy and I feel like I'm wasting some potential. I have bottomed a few times, it's never been that enjoyable really. I am quite passive really. I would feel embarassed though if a smaller/younger guy fucked me. When I have tried to top in the past, my nerves have got the better of me and I've never been able to keep it up. Embarassin.g Alcohol hasn't helped haha, but I'd be too nervous if I was sober as well.

All this has put me off dating. If I was to hit it off with someone, I always dread discussing sex. My lack of experience has just made me more anxious, a vicious circle. Ideally a partner would be understanding and we could work through it. Anal just comes so naturally to most people and I wish it was the same for me sometimes. I know not every gay guy is into it. How can I get over this fear and anxiety?

Any thoughts/advice very welcome, thanks
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Re: Lack of experience holding me back

Unread postby Frigid » 8 July 2020, 15:58

Learn to be patient with yourself, enjoy the time you’re with someone, and you explain to them your nerves about fucking them.
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Re: Lack of experience holding me back

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 9 July 2020, 05:46

Take inspiration from Shawn Mendes who wrote a song exactly about this sort of thing. He shed his anxiety over anal and now he’s an unstoppable bottom.

Blow: "Nowadays even Liam can release an album of his screechy vocals and it'll probably go #1..."
Ramzus: I can admit that I'm horny just about 24/7
homomorphism: I used to not think your name was deshay and that Erick was just being racist
Hunter: sometimes I think I was literally born to be a pornstar
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