“Let’s take a step back and evaluate” meaning.

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“Let’s take a step back and evaluate” meaning.

Unread postby Ocguy » 27 August 2020, 18:43

Here I go:
Met a good guy. We got along very well. Last Sunday we ended up having a discussion for a stupid reason. I asked where do we stand and I wanted to get serious about us meaning just needed some clarity to know some basic key items in our dating process: are we exclusive, are we not dating other people. Or chatting with others and in general how do we feel so far. His response was he “wanted to take it slow and don’t rush up things. Whe w ear wreath we both know”. I was ok with it. Then I asked for the specifics I hace me tones here and he got all defensive and offended somehow because he thought I was pushing him. Told me this is all about me wanting reassurance and answers. I interrupted him a few times at the time he was saying all that because it wasn’t true and that also fired back at me: “you don’t let me talk, for moments like this I hate dating I prefer to be alone. I don’t need anyone to take care of me I can do that myself”. I stayed quiet. At some point he said if I wanted an answer I was not going to like what he had to say. And his response was that “this is not going to worn because of moments like this one”. We sort of cooled off and we ended up having sex. No kissing. We hugged and I left his place. I asked where do we stand and he just said “ let’s talk tomrorow”. Next day I asked to talk and he just “Hey. I don’t want to come across as ignoring you. I really think we both need to take a step back and evaluate. If you don’t feel you need to do that, respect my wishes as this is what I need to do”. I said let’s talk. He said “we’ve talked last night, I don’t want to talk tonight. Maybe tomorrow” I just said “call me when you are free. I’ll answer for sure” he just said ok. My question to you: how long is a take a step back thing? Been 3 days and I haven’t heard from him. Are we done? Should I text and say: hey I was thinking of you. Have a nice day”. Fair to say we were just dating and not in a bf situation. Please advice.
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