Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

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Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby lightnight » 3 June 2019, 23:03

- I'm making this for all kinds of relationships (family, friends, partners, coworkers)
- I've just got one advice but I welcome you to share something tactful that you've learned avoid hurting people


So what do I have to say? Well, just this:

If you have someone close to you who shares about how their job is shit or someone in their life doesn't treat them well, or some other situation they're going through, listen to them, sympathize with them, give your input, and just don't mention it later.

It might be possible that a few hours later or a few days later, you have a disagreement with them. Do not bring up the thing they shared as your argument against them. Even if you want to, just wait it out until the heat of that moment is passed and you can calmly point it out.

Example (from my life):
Friend: "My job sucks"
Me: "Yeah... It's below your potential"

The next day

Me: "Could you please do me a favour that requires a bit of your time? I can't do it because I'm very busy."
Friend: "Can't, gotta go to work"
Me: "What work? Your work sucks anyway"
Friend: *visibly hurt* "It's as important as your work"

In short, don't be like me and

Do Not Casually Use Someone's Problems As Comebacks Against Them.


You're free to add your advice on how to avoid unnecessary hurting people, starting fights etc.
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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby Iamjava » 4 June 2019, 02:52

what is tact?
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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby Marmaduke » 4 June 2019, 04:27

I think calling that tact is overselling it a bit. That’s just advice on how to not be a dick. You may as well say “don’t call people assholes” or “don’t poke people in the eye”, as advice it’s hardly the last word in social grace.

See what I did there? I could’ve just called you a moron, but I didn’t. Instead, I’ve laid out a suggested context that strongly infers that you’re a moron. Because I’m tactful. You’re welcome.
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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 4 June 2019, 05:00

I for one reject political correctness and make it a habit of calling people’s mothers cum-guzzling whores and wenches. Only by creating a nightmare free-for-all can we truly begin to heal as we numb our sensibilities to the point where we can never feel—ever again. You can’t be offended if you’ve got no sense of respect or value.
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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby lightnight » 7 June 2019, 04:59

Marmaduke wrote:Because I’m tactful. You’re welcome.


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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby Eryx » 7 June 2019, 15:30

Marmaduke is something else lol
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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby mxguy01 » 8 June 2019, 03:11

Maybe we should have "tactfulness" as a GFO awards category. Oh, then then we'd have a category with zero qualified to compete. So maybe a category of "tactlessness" then that should be one hell of a battle.
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Re: Little Acts of Tact (Share Yours)

Unread postby Eryx » 9 June 2019, 14:37

Boo hoo!
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