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Living inside strict culture and discriminative society, need advice

Unread postby oxwer » 2 May 2020, 12:53

Hi, i want to introduce myself. You guys are just call me brian. I am 20 years old, i born and live in Indonesia. Currently i take a bachelor degree in law and this is my biggest achievement in my life that I'm very proud of because it's one of the most prestigious state universities in my country. Both my family and friends have a very bad opinions about gay people. They say that gay people do not deserve to live in this world, deserved discrimination, and many horrible things. And in fact even most people in this country say so. If I could choose not to be gay I would really do it but that is certainly impossible except accepting really who I am, I still remember when i was 5, me and my mother go to the mall and i saw a shirtless dude poster, Suddenly something bulging inside my shorts lol. at that time I was wondering what the hell is happened to me. Until one day I was in biology class in junior high school, everything was finally answered. That's when I realized that I'm gay. Since then I always hide my feelings to the person I like. Lately I've often thought about my future if it continues like that. Seeing a lot of my college friend already has a partner makes me jealous lol. For me to find a partner in conditions like this (unsupportive culture, society, and religion) is very difficult, while my feelings to be loved are also higher day by day. Never mind that, looking for friends who fully understand my feelings alone is very difficult. I don't know what I will do. I'm afraid that will never get a partner and forever alone :( I'm stuck with this condition. Please i need ur advice guys, thx :)

Sorry if there is an incorrect grammar, I'm bad at english :(
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Re: Living inside strict culture and discriminative society, need advi

Unread postby Eryx » 2 May 2020, 13:44

Unfortunately, in these cases, there's no easy answer. You either face your family and friends, or you move to a different country. Or you stay the way you are... :(
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Re: Living inside strict culture and discriminative society, need advi

Unread postby Frigid » 3 May 2020, 15:46

Qualify, work to earn some money, move to a better country.
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Re: Living inside strict culture and discriminative society, need advi

Unread postby oxwer » 11 May 2020, 04:11

well then thx for your opinion guys :)
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