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Unread postby Thephoenixmexican » 14 May 2019, 05:02

Do you guys believe in healthy loving relationships? I can't seem to find one.

I either like a guy, and he's straight, or I meet an actual cute gay guy and he's in a relationship. And worse... he still wants to mess around... *sigh*

Anyways, do you guys believe there's such a thing?
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Re: Love?

Unread postby Eryx » 14 May 2019, 15:47

Yeah, I do!

René, this forum's owner, has been in a relationship with Brenden (another member/administrator) for years and they seem to be having a good time together. I've also been dating the same guy for over a year and things have never been better.

It's difficult and it may take time, but your pair is out there. Just keep working on yourself and your own goals, these things tend to just happen when we least expect it. And it's even better for it.

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Re: Love?

Unread postby Softheart » 14 May 2019, 18:24

Yes. It he is out there. But to find him you need to know who you are and what you like. If you are a gay bar type, that's one thing, but if you are a low key ordinary guy who happens to be gay, that is another. There are guys out there in other less common walks of life that are not part of "the scene". I suspect you are looking for a guy like that.
We can learn a lot from women here. Look into they ways women seek out men partners on line. The chat for awhile and ask questions of each other. They text, chat, etc. If they decide they want to meet they pick a safe quiet place like coffee shop or a restaurant. It's about first impressions and physical (and emotional) safety.
I think in your case, I'd let him make the first move. Let him ask you out for coffee, and if you aren't familiar with the place, then over rule his choice and pick one you know. At least you won't look like a push over.
All of these interactions create the groundwork to evaluate a person to see if you might actually like them enough to have a cup of coffee with them. There is no rush unless you are in a hurry, and if you are, then that makes you look needy.
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Re: Love?

Unread postby uncut7in » 26 May 2019, 14:53

Yes I believe in love, but admit it has happened only once. I met a much younger guy who described himself as bi-curious, as he was living with his girlfriend. We had a couple of meetings and the sex was absolutely unbelievable, and we fell in love within the first few weeks. We had an intense physical and emotional relationship for over four years, though meeting a lot less often as we would have liked. He now describes himself as Bisexual.
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Re: Love?

Unread postby Iamjava » 29 May 2019, 03:09

8/16/16, we start dating.
11/28/16, were engaged
5/28/19, still engaged

for 11 months we had wonderful sex. after that fate put miles between us. yet happy monogomy reigns. as we have promised our love to each other.

jay, my wonderful fiance, i could never replace. our love remains strong. :heart:

gays are stereotyped for sleeping around, but if you truly want a commited, loving relationship, have patience. it will come, and it will be worth it!

afterall, yes there were some hiccups, but my stepdads brother and partner have been together for 30 years. it took over 30 years to find each other :)
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