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Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby beachboy951 » 25 April 2019, 16:19

I'm in a monogamous relationship with my bf. Question for you guys is that in your relationship did you find yourself attracted to others and wanna have fun with them (not necessarily having sex)? What do you do to keep faithful?
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby nikolii » 26 April 2019, 01:18

Yeah I've always found other men attractive whenever I've been in a relationship. I've always assumed that never goes away. You can continue being faithful with your partner in two ways. You can sit down like adults and have a discussion about your sexual desires and try and work something out. Alternatively, you can focus on the respect you have for your partner and not cheat on him.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby René » 27 April 2019, 22:07

I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby Marmaduke » 28 April 2019, 09:41

René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby René » 28 April 2019, 10:25

Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby Marmaduke » 28 April 2019, 10:29

René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".

Once they exist as separate individuals, there is no mental link between them. Each has his own mind and is a mentally different individual from that point forwards. Over time, each will be shaped by differing experience. At what point do you send one of the Brendens away? Assuming one doesn’t kill the other in a duel beforehand.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby René » 28 April 2019, 10:33

Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".

Once they exist as separate individuals, there is no mental link between them. Each has his own mind and is a mentally different individual from that point forwards. Over time, each will be shaped by differing experience. At what point do you send one of the Brendens away? Assuming one doesn’t kill the other in a duel beforehand.

Why would I send one of them away? :3

If I did send one of them away, it would probably be to be cryonically preserved as a backup copy.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby Marmaduke » 28 April 2019, 10:35

René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".

Once they exist as separate individuals, there is no mental link between them. Each has his own mind and is a mentally different individual from that point forwards. Over time, each will be shaped by differing experience. At what point do you send one of the Brendens away? Assuming one doesn’t kill the other in a duel beforehand.

Why would I send one of them away? :3

If I did send one of them away, it would probably be to be cryonically preserved as a backup copy.

You live in Scotland now. One or both of them is eventually going to develop an interest in learning the bagpipes.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby René » 28 April 2019, 10:36

Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".

Once they exist as separate individuals, there is no mental link between them. Each has his own mind and is a mentally different individual from that point forwards. Over time, each will be shaped by differing experience. At what point do you send one of the Brendens away? Assuming one doesn’t kill the other in a duel beforehand.

Why would I send one of them away? :3

If I did send one of them away, it would probably be to be cryonically preserved as a backup copy.

You live in Scotland now. One or both of them is eventually going to develop an interest in learning the bagpipes.

That will be interesting to watch.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby Marmaduke » 28 April 2019, 10:37

René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".

Once they exist as separate individuals, there is no mental link between them. Each has his own mind and is a mentally different individual from that point forwards. Over time, each will be shaped by differing experience. At what point do you send one of the Brendens away? Assuming one doesn’t kill the other in a duel beforehand.

Why would I send one of them away? :3

If I did send one of them away, it would probably be to be cryonically preserved as a backup copy.

You live in Scotland now. One or both of them is eventually going to develop an interest in learning the bagpipes.

That will be interesting to watch.

Strikes me as terrifying. You should probably call out to Brenden immediately and ask him to promise you not to trespass on any scientific research properties. Let’s just nip this in the bud.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby René » 28 April 2019, 10:44

Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:
Marmaduke wrote:
René wrote:I've never found it very difficult. I'm attracted to other guys all the time and I must have had a dozen crushes in the 9 years I've been married, but all my life I've known I wanted to pick just one person and stay with them for the rest of my days. The thought of "having fun" with someone else feels quite alien to me.

What if Brenden wanders into a mysterious laboratory one day and gets caught up in a cloning accident and neither you nor the Brenden’s can tell who is the original?

If there is no physical difference between the two, one is as much Brenden as the other. Neither qualifies as "someone else".

Once they exist as separate individuals, there is no mental link between them. Each has his own mind and is a mentally different individual from that point forwards. Over time, each will be shaped by differing experience. At what point do you send one of the Brendens away? Assuming one doesn’t kill the other in a duel beforehand.

Why would I send one of them away? :3

If I did send one of them away, it would probably be to be cryonically preserved as a backup copy.

You live in Scotland now. One or both of them is eventually going to develop an interest in learning the bagpipes.

That will be interesting to watch.

Strikes me as terrifying. You should probably call out to Brenden immediately and ask him to promise you not to trespass on any scientific research properties. Let’s just nip this in the bud.

Probably. Then again, the possibilities are intriguing.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby xeil » 19 May 2019, 11:54

Sure I think it is normal. Besides every person has a different approach to relationships, some people are monogamous and happy, some chose monogamy happly, some are not-monogamous, etc... The important thing is to understand where you stand and be always honest with your partner.
Anyway, being in a relationship and finding other people attractive is not so surprising. You make a decision to be with the partner you choose, but you still have your urges and feelings.
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Re: Monogamy and desire to have fun

Unread postby uncut7in » 21 May 2019, 11:55

Anyone else find irritating quoting replies, re-quoting, quoting again,,.............. A single post can run to multiple screens, and frankly I dont have the time to read them.
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