My first relationship ?

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My first relationship ?

Unread postby Eos » 11 April 2019, 05:24

Hi everyone !

Well the story is that I met a guy on an app, we talked a little and met up by the end of the week.

I had so much fun with him, we spent time playing video games, watching films and series or eating together. After that we kept seeing each other doing the same things.

It is now around 3 weeks that it has been like that. But I don't know what I feel about him, the thing is that we don't really talk about ourselves, I just know that he will be a music teacher. I don't know much about his family or friends. I don't know what he dreams for the future. I don't know his past. And neither does he.

I just wish we could talk about all of that, talking about the good things I wish to have later (childs), the bad things that made me who I am, I mean if we want to be in a relationship we should be open about ourselves.

I asked him what he thought of me, and he said that he didn't know (and neither did I).

But still there has been a few physical contacts, he put his head on my shoulder, his arm behind my head on the opposite shoulder (and knead it a little). It felt great (and a bit scary as I have zero experience). I felt that if he wanted to kiss me I would let myself fall for this.

He even asked me to sleep in his place.

But I feel it's important that I know him better.

What do you think I should do ?

Thanks =)
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Re: My first relationship ?

Unread postby Eryx » 11 April 2019, 14:59

Cute! Well, usually those subjects just come up with time. If you feel like you guys don't get there naturally, then start asking him. Ask him out for situations where you get to talk more to each other, like having a coffee or to drink with friends. If he sees who you hang out with, he'll know more about you through them and will become more of a part of your life.

As for the physical involvement, I would be climbing up the walls by week three without even a kiss! Don't know how you can do it. But there's no need to be scared, these things have a way of just happening.
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Re: My first relationship ?

Unread postby Eos » 11 April 2019, 15:29

Well I couldn't handle this situation so I decided to ask directly and all of the answers were perfects !
I wanted to discuss about something important that happened to me and he's Ok I tell him tomorrow !
I don't hang out much, when I do it's mostly with my family.

I didn't get what you said in the end, you think we are to slow ? ^^ You're the first one to put our situation that way ^^
Well there was that one time where I wouldn't mind to kiss him but it was too hard for me (I struggled just to put my arm on his shoulder ^^). I'm not used to it I guess ^^
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Re: My first relationship ?

Unread postby Eos » 13 April 2019, 06:46

Little update :

I've open up to him, and so did he. I feel much more free it's good.
The night when we were seeing a film, while I was struggling to put my head against his chest, he decided to put his arm on my right so I jumped in the occasion and put my head on him.
It was like my first cuddling experience (even if it is light) and it was so good !
In the end I told him how good the night was (but he didn't to react about what I said, he just smiled and laughed a little) and went home.
During the afternoon, he explained to me that he wanted to let the things go, slowly, as he think it was the problem of his previous relationship. I have no idea what is the normal speed, but I do think I am slow, mostly because of my lack of self confidence.
And yes, no kiss still ^^
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Re: My first relationship ?

Unread postby René » 13 April 2019, 20:58

That's adorable :3

I'm glad things are going well! Keep us updated :keke:
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