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My Straight Roommate

Unread postby punkfence » 1 November 2021, 02:11

So, I've been best friends with a guy and we became roommates. On Saturday night, we got wasted and hooked up.

He's my straight roommate/best friend but he initiated it and I'm lost? We haven't addressed it. I don't know how he feels about it. I feel like an ass because I never go for straight meñ. I didn't start it but I feel awful because I don't want to be one of those people that thinks they can "turn" people.
I've been on edge all day and I don't want our relationship to change because we were wasted.

Any advice on breaking the tension and keeping my friendship? Or have we ruined it?
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Re: My Straight Roommate

Unread postby pozzie » 1 November 2021, 18:47

Welcome to the forum and here's hoping your situation chills back out.

The most important thing is to not overthink this. You guys "got wasted and hooked up." Think of it as a good thing, obviously he felt comfortable and curious enough to be willing -- well, I'm sure horny enough helped as well. Probably the best approach is to just go about your normal routine at home and assume he's doing the same until you have reason to believe otherwise. Is he acting any different?
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Re: My Straight Roommate

Unread postby Polishguy » 3 November 2021, 02:24

Well the first thing as said pozboro is that if your friend act diffrent. If u see no visible difference it probably will be easier (but it depends on his character) to talk to him and to ask about that night. Try to find best and most "private" moment to do it, and one more thing be honest completely honest and say also what u said to us about your worries. I don't know what type of guy is he but on his position i would feel really uncomfortable so don't push him too much the key is patience.Well u both were drunk which means u both were not in control of yourself, u can use that argument as well...
Well this is hard time now but if u are friends u can manage it, but u need to know how do u truly see each other, learn from it and move forward. Regaining trust may take time but it is worth it for sure
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Re: My Straight Roommate

Unread postby Bimm » 8 November 2021, 19:35

punkfence wrote:So, I've been best friends with a guy and we became roommates. On Saturday night, we got wasted and hooked up.

He's my straight roommate/best friend but he initiated it and I'm lost? We haven't addressed it. I don't know how he feels about it. I feel like an ass because I never go for straight meñ. I didn't start it but I feel awful because I don't want to be one of those people that thinks they can "turn" people.
I've been on edge all day and I don't want our relationship to change because we were wasted.

Any advice on breaking the tension and keeping my friendship? Or have we ruined it?


First of all, wasted or not, he initiated it. Even wasted, he must have felt something for you, either physical or emotional. You say you are best friends and he is straight. Straight guys can feel things for other men. He obviously feels something for you even if it is just physical. Physical love (sex) can be a wonderful thing between friends. If both of you only want sex, great.

I think you should get into another situation (not wasted) to see if he tries again. Make sure he is not completely drunk or high. Let him know that you are open to the idea again maybe by getting into a similar situation as that night and similar positions in your house like, if you were watching a movie or a tv show that interests both of you. But, don’t just ask him outright, unless you think you can.

If he again initiates the act, tell him you are enjoying it. You never know, this may be what you both need.
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