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Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby Mr_Understood » 19 June 2021, 20:03

Does anyone else have a tendency to do this? Every once in a while I find myself wondering about previous men I've been with. For the record, I'm kind of late bloomer and never been with so many people (COVID doesn't help either, even if hasn't stopped a few acquaintances of mine from dating). So I guess I tend to cling to their memories sometimes.

Lately the first guy I've been with has been on my mind lately. Not that he was special, you know. In fact he was kind of a jerk but I dunno, I liked when he laughed at my jokes, you what I mean? And in the end it's thanks to him that I found out I was gay, weather he intended it or not.
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby Eryx » 20 June 2021, 14:55

Occasionally I think about past experiences and ex-boyfriends to masturbate, but the nostalgia ends with my orgasm.
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby pozboro » 20 June 2021, 19:25

Yeah, it's totally normal to reminisce - we all like to remember things from our past. It's probably a sign that someone made an impact. No biggie, well, as long as it doesn't lead to obsession and stalking. LOL

I went through a stage where I tried to reconnect with people from my past, but it never really has worked. People change and sometimes there were reasons we drifted apart. Sometimes the memories are just so much better ...

But year, I remember a guy I hooked up with a number of times. Wasn't the best by a long shot, but he definitely had a huge impact on my life and there are things I miss about him since we lost contact. TBH, there are elements of the friendship that I miss much more than the actual person.
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby Severelius » 20 June 2021, 19:36

Only insofar as it's been a very long time since I've gotten any action at all and I find myself thinking back to previous hookups I've had that were particularly satisfying and wishing I could have that same experience again.
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby Mr_Understood » 20 June 2021, 19:58

pozboro wrote:Yeah, it's totally normal to reminisce - we all like to remember things from our past. It's probably a sign that someone made an impact. No biggie, well, as long as it doesn't lead to obsession and stalking. LOL

I went through a stage where I tried to reconnect with people from my past, but it never really has worked. People change and sometimes there were reasons we drifted apart. Sometimes the memories are just so much better ...

But year, I remember a guy I hooked up with a number of times. Wasn't the best by a long shot, but he definitely had a huge impact on my life and there are things I miss about him since we lost contact. TBH, there are elements of the friendship that I miss much more than the actual person.


Don't worry, I'm not THAT obsessive lol. But I do admit I have a problem with letting go. It's hard for me to delete certain contacts from my phone, even from people I haven't seen in ages.

I'm in the same page as you in regards to friendship, some guys I've been with, the sex was good, some times it was great, but it was little things that keep them in my mind, talking shit, walking on the beach, even discussing Literature lol.

As for the first guy I've been with, like I said, he was jerk who wanted to cheat his then-boyfriend but, it was the first time I felt attracted, and attractive, to someone. I'm very self-conscious about my appearance so it was a big deal for me, never thought someone would find me good-looking, let alone attractive.

Severelius wrote:Only insofar as it's been a very long time since I've gotten any action at all and I find myself thinking back to previous hookups I've had that were particularly satisfying and wishing I could have that same experience again.


I know what it's like. It's been a while for me too and the pandemic isn't helping, either. My parents are of high risk of contagion and some neighbors of ours even died or are intubated. I got some hard rejections for 'wanting to leave the house'.
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby blueben99 » 4 July 2021, 05:16

Definitely. I had a regular hookup for the last few years that was great, we could hang out have a chat and a drink, have fun, invite people etc but then they moved away back to their home town. Now im longing for that kind of rapport with someone.
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby Petite » 5 July 2021, 09:39

I really miss the man who introduced me to being the bottom when I first started out. He was older father type figure, calm dominant and caring. Unfortunately he's now married with kids (lucky wife!)
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby weedan » 10 July 2021, 15:37

I often think about some of the guys I've been with as well. Would love to hook up with my first again. Or the older guy who would have been. My first boyfriend. I miss him loads
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Re: Nostalgia for previous partners/hookups?

Unread postby LynxReloaded » 19 July 2021, 23:12

no i keep the past dead. i am cold as ice.
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