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Online friendship

Unread postby babyllon » 9 April 2020, 23:43

Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum so I hope that I'm writing this in the right place.

So I'm 18 and I live in a pretty homophobic surrounding, without a lot of opportunities to meet gay people. A month ago or so, I randomly followed this guy that I saw in a distant acquaintance's IG story. He seemed cute and had a nice feed. Turns out, we have a lot of things in common - we both like the same music, have the same sense of humor and share many other interests. I'm pretty sure he's gay as well. The only thing is, I gathered all of this from what he posts and not from actually talking to him. I've never talked to guys like this before, and I find it really awkward to DM random people on Instagram. I would like to talk to him and make a like-minded friend in the least, but I feel quite anxious in doing so.

Does it truly weird people out when a random stranger messages them or is it just me? How could I approach him without it being strange and awkward, taking into account that I don't know him nor any of his friends? Any experiences with meeting guys this way and how to do it? Thanks in advance :heart:
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Re: Online friendship

Unread postby Neuro » 10 April 2020, 04:37

DM him with a brief self intro. It's less awkward to start the chat by asking about his interests that he showed on Instagram.
I've never had an urge to know strangers on IG, and I'm too shy to do it. haha but it's not weird to me at all.
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Re: Online friendship

Unread postby InternetShrink » 10 April 2020, 08:55

Neuro wrote:DM him with a brief self intro. It's less awkward to start the chat by asking about his interests that he showed on Instagram.
I've never had an urge to know strangers on IG, and I'm too shy to do it. haha but it's not weird to me at all.

Piggybacking off of what Neuro said, if he's down, he'll make it known that he's down. If he ignores you, he isn't interested and it's not worth your time.
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Re: Online friendship

Unread postby Eryx » 10 April 2020, 14:39

hahaha here in Brazil when guys are interested on IG they simply DM me or my boyfriend with a heart-eyed emoji or something similar. Very forward.

I think you should just be upfront. "Hey, I saw your profile from an acquaintance's page and really liked your vibe. I hope we can get to know each other better!"
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