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Unread postby Wackyzackyz » 10 April 2021, 08:16

Hi guys, so I have a question. Specifically for guys who are in open relationships.

Background info: me and my partner will of been together for 10 years this summer, when we got together I was young and pretty naive, I believed sex was something that only two people who loved each other should do, and disagreed with one night stands and hookups.
  So my partner is the only person I have ever slept with, as he was My first and only boyfriend. My views on sex now are completely different as I've grown older and my eyes have opened a bit more.
  I still love my partner and we still have a healthy sex life for a couple of ten years, however I grow more and more 'thirst' for other guys I see. I would never cheat on my partner, but I am interested in suggesting to him about maybe opening our relationship.

So my question is, how do I approach this subject with him without offending him or upsetting him?
And if you're in an open relationship how did yours form, from the get go?
Or something you decided late on in your relationship?

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Re: Open relationships

Unread postby René » 18 April 2021, 01:14

Wackyzackyz wrote:me and my partner will of been together for 10 years this summer, when we got together I was young and pretty naive, I believed sex was something that only two people who loved each other should do, and disagreed with one night stands and hookups.
  So my partner is the only person I have ever slept with, as he was My first and only boyfriend.

I don't think it's naïve. That's largely my view, except I'm polyamorous so it becomes possibly more than 2 people who love each other. (I've only had sex with two people in my whole life, both of whom I'm with in a now three-way relationship; I hope to grow old with them and never to be with anyone else. :keke:)

Wackyzackyz wrote:I would never cheat on my partner, but I am interested in suggesting to him about maybe opening our relationship.

So my question is, how do I approach this subject with him without offending him or upsetting him?
And if you're in an open relationship how did yours form, from the get go?
Or something you decided late on in your relationship?

I don't have any experience with open relationships, but I know the mere suggestion has been enough to trigger some relationships ending, so be prepared for that if you're not certain how your partner will react. (My husband and I got into polyamory after almost 10 years of marriage (with us likewise both having been virgins when we met and only been with each other until that point), but I already knew he was open to the idea of that. Based on what you've said, I guess your partner hasn't expressed any positive sentiments about open relationships?)

It's also possible he'd be more open to the idea of trying a threesome.

I would be significantly more open to the idea of an open relationship if there weren't STIs out there which can spread even when people don't have any symptoms and are associated with developing serious health problems like cancer and Alzheimer's Disease.
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Re: Open relationships

Unread postby Petite » 20 May 2021, 16:53

Why don't you tell him that some guy X has been hitting on you at work or whatever and see how he reacts and where conversation takes you. If he's interested then he might be up for it.
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Re: Open relationships

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 22 May 2021, 10:46

Petite wrote:Why don't you tell him that some guy X has been hitting on you at work or whatever and see how he reacts and where conversation takes you. If he's interested then he might be up for it.


I appreciate your employment of an individual variable here.
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Re: Open relationships

Unread postby McTaggartfan » 23 May 2021, 22:13

Gay Sohbet wrote:Thanks for sharing


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Re: Open relationships

Unread postby Petite » 28 May 2021, 15:38

On this subject my partner who is the top and I have known this friend of a friend for a while now. He's really cute and friendly bottom like me. We're meeting him for drinks at a pub tomorrow and my partner thinks to invite him back to our place. I'm quite excited as I've never had a 3some but nervous at the same time and embarrassed to think about it. I don't want to make it awkward. My partner said that he will talk to him and see what happens.
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Re: Open relationships

Unread postby René » 31 May 2021, 02:55

Petite wrote:On this subject my partner who is the top and I have known this friend of a friend for a while now. He's really cute and friendly bottom like me. We're meeting him for drinks at a pub tomorrow and my partner thinks to invite him back to our place. I'm quite excited as I've never had a 3some but nervous at the same time and embarrassed to think about it. I don't want to make it awkward. My partner said that he will talk to him and see what happens.

I've been in one threesome in my life, which was just incredible. I detailed it in a thread here (including some graphic detail in the spoiler on page 2 :P).

Though my husband and I were so compatible with that guy that we actually ended up forming a relationship with him and he's been our boyfriend for more than a year now. I guess it's probably uncommon for a threesome to work out as well as ours did, but it can happen. :D
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