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Unread postby manfromrobinhood » 6 August 2020, 01:50

Allow me to share a bit of history. I'm a late bloomer, not waking up until I was 50. After jumping into 3 relationships, each failed. I accept my blame for my 50%. After the last split, I began dating for the first time. Insecurities caused me to latch on to # 2 while I was with #1, and #3 while I was with #2. My eventual dating proved adventurous and results were "fruitful". I came to realize that men found me attractive and that they wanted my company. Eventually, I met and fell in love with the most amazing man. As in most beginnings, the sex was extremely sensuous with a great deal of foreplay (a favorite of mine) and sex 4-5 days a week. I knew this would change once we moved in together, and it did. However, our love grew through commonalities and constant "loving back". Eventually, sex dwindled to 3X a week, and the foreplay slowed down. Now, 6 years later, foreplay is limited to short term manual, and oral with penetration dwindling. Sex is only one time per week, and penetration is only once a month. Still, he is determined to bring me to satisfaction with oral, and other stimulation. I'm trying to be "correct" in my description as I am not sure how much detail is permitted on the site. Given, my partner is 70 and I imagine his testosterone wanes, I have concerns. Again, I must share he is always attentive, loving, and shares many, many gestures of affection. All things that no other man has given me. Also, my partner is not one who welcomes discussion. If this topic was approached, he would remove himself or withdraw in other ways. What can I do to stimulate this man I love.
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Unread postby Jasper1 » 6 August 2020, 09:22

Hi there!

You’ve posted this in the introductions section. You’ll get a better response from members if you posted this one in relationships.

You might also want to complete the intro template and formally introduce yourself. In my experience members are more likely to respond if they know a little more about you.
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Unread postby Eryx » 6 August 2020, 13:43

I have no idea. I think I'm going to be kind of done with sex when I reach 70 too. Maybe you could try bringing younger guys into the mix just for fun? That might spice things up a bit. But I've never had experience with someone so old so I wouldn't really know.
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Unread postby Jasper1 » 7 August 2020, 20:50

So I just read this one properly this time.

To be honest, your partner sounds like a lovely guy. As Eryx has said, if he’s 70 his libido will surely not be as strong as yours but clearly he still cares about pleasing you and makes an effort to do so.

You have to accept that at the age of 70 sex is not going to be his priority. It catches up with all of us eventually.

I would cut him some slack to be honest and appreciate that he makes time to satisfy you. it’s not like he does not want to have sex at all. You sound like you appreciate him in all other ways so I don’t think there is a big problem here.

Be happy!
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Unread postby manfromrobinhood » 21 August 2020, 23:25

Jasper1, What wise words you share. True, my partner is a lovely man ... a rare man. I suppose I do need to accept that our bodies change. As you wrote, he cares about pleasing me, and that means a great deal. Lastly, I appreciate this man beyond belief. Having written that, I reply to Eryx's suggestion to bringing someone in. A previous partner and I had an open relationship. Playing separate was fun and plentiful. The times we played as a 3some were a disaster. With my current partner, he is who I want to spend every single second of my life with. Bringing someone else in, is not a consideration of mine. Plus, I have always enjoyed "private self time". I'll make the best of that. I do greatly appreciate you taking the time to share words of wisdom.
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