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Unread postby Mrblaster23 » 17 February 2020, 18:51

Hey guys,

I need some advice. I am a newly gay man and 24 years old. I've had my fair share of hook ups and trying to experience and explore new things.

Currently I am dating someone 8 years older then I am and they have been out of the closet for 11 years. My boyfriend has a lot of sexual experience. Like a loooot lol. In public we would see people he's hooked up with all the time and even certain buildings he would say "oh ya I've hooked up in there".

I told him how I felt how I don't necessarily feel the need to know who he's hooked up and where he's hooked up before and set that boundary and he said he will try his best.

What I need help with is that I honestly am too scared to try new things with him because he's already done everything before and I'm scared he might see me as a noob or annoying. Also I'm scared I'm not experienced as him. I know this might be my own insecurities talking but it's just hard when your partner is sooo sexually experiences and it makes me feel like I'm bad in bed or something. I know this might sound a little bit crazy but I'm still learning so much about the gay community.

The topic of if he wants to open our relationship for me to go try new things has been brought up but I said no because I can't imagine loving someone and picturing them sleeping with someone else. I know open relationships are very common in gay relationships but it's something that I'm not quite interested in at the moment. I guess With relationships you can't pick and choose what you want but focus on compromise
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Re: Sexual compatibility

Unread postby Eryx » 17 February 2020, 20:10

There's no suggestion I can give you, you just have to try to get that out of your head. I've never felt annoyed or bored with someone who wasn't too experienced, chemistry does a whole lot more than the amount of hookups someone had in the past. You just have to forget about that. And I agree it's a little obnoxious to hear about conquests all the time.
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Re: Sexual compatibility

Unread postby Mrblaster23 » 17 February 2020, 20:20

Thanks for replying. Yea I know there's nothing really anyone can say to help me but I've just never been in this situation. It's almost intimidating lol but I'm just over thinking it
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Re: Sexual compatibility

Unread postby Revontulet » 18 February 2020, 00:52

If you're both comfortable with each other, then his experience or lack of yours shouldn't be important. Try to relax and enjoy. The last thing you need is to feel intimidated or inhibited.

Now, the second thing. Yes, there should always be a compromise in every relationship, but you are not interested then don't accept the status of an open relationship.

Cheers!
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Re: Sexual compatibility

Unread postby rogonandi » 18 February 2020, 09:18

Just think of all the new stuff he’ll be able to teach you. ;)
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