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Should I be worried?

Unread postby 80sbaby » 15 July 2019, 00:23

Here is a little background about my past, guys have treated me like shit all the time, only wanting one thing, leading me on and been cheated on. Everything always seems to be going good until they break my heart for no real reason. Since then I have had a hard time trusting and believing guys in what they say, If you have advice on how to trust and believe what they are saying then by all means, give me that advice. I am 29 and he is 32.

So I have been dating this guy for three months now, and everything is going well so far. I only have two concerns that I have been noticing lately.

one is yesterday I tagged us in a post on Facebook and he untagged himself and I do not know why and I haven't asked him because I'm not seeing him until Tuesday or Wednesday. Should I ask him about it or just leave it be?

Two, is for about a week and a half, he hasn't been texting me the same like he used to. I went out of town and before I went out of town us texting was normal and even when I was away, everything was normal in texting. But since I got back I personally felt that he has been texting me differently. I mean he carries the conversation when we text he would just disappear on me and I feel like I have been the conversation starter lately. And I understand when he doesn't respond he is at work or is busy with his own life but before he would always ask me what I am up to, if its been a couple of hours of silence or would sometimes start the conversation. I did ask him why he has been disappearing lately when we text and he said he hasn't been and said he was sorry if I did disappear.

However when we are around each other everything seems normal, nothing has really changed. He still calls be babe and kisses me. I do feel like he has not been wanting to cuddle much either or it could be me being paranoid.
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Re: Should I be worried?

Unread postby Eryx » 15 July 2019, 13:05

I think the conversations get more spaced out with time. I've been with my current boyfriend for a little over a year and we definitely don't talk as much on the phone as we used to. If he's acting normally in person and being affectionate, it's probably all in your head.

If he untagged himself from a picture with you, maybe there are people in his life he hasn't been able to come out to, and he doesn't want to start a potential situation. You should probably talk to him about it the next time you see each other. But I don't think it's something terrible.

It is hard to build trust after we've been hurt so much, but try to remember that he's not those other guys and that he deserves a clean slate as much as any other person. I think it's always a little more noticeable when things aren't going well, in your case here I think it's probably nothing!

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Re: Should I be worried?

Unread postby Criston Green » 20 July 2019, 03:13

I think you're fine so far, the initial crush has worn off so you're not on the phone as much and @Eryx is spot on, the facebook thing may worry him because he isnt out to everyone.
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Re: Should I be worried?

Unread postby 80sbaby » 22 July 2019, 15:53

Thank you so much guys for your advice. I decided to not really bring up the Facebook thing, unless it happens again. Since posting this everything has been good! I am trying my best to trust him and to not sweat the small stuff.
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