The Polyamory/Polyfidelity Thread

Ask questions and discuss your relationships with partners or parents, family or friends.

What are you?

I'm polyamorous in practice.
2
8%
I'm polyamorous in theory.
4
16%
I'm open to polyamory.
8
32%
I'm a monogamist.
15
60%
I'm a serial monogamist.
2
8%
Never really thought about it.
1
4%
 
Total votes : 32

Re: The Polyamory/Polyfidelity Thread

Unread postby René » 2 August 2020, 19:03

Sherri wrote:How interesting! I step out and become monogamous and loads of other people get a touch of the polyamory in the meanwhile!

Haha :P

Sherri wrote:Funny aside, the fucked up thing about being polyamorous is that it doesn't matter why your relationships ended; most people will assume it was simply because they were polyamorous and you know those poly relationships never last! Very annoying!

To be honest, I was kind of pleasantly surprised that we only got totally positive and supportive reactions from people we've told, except for one (Brenden's mom) who has since come around.

Brenden's mom was sceptical at first but seemed to change her tune after seeing some of the photos I posted here showing how happy we are together. She had always been super-pleased about my and Brenden's commitment to each other and monogamy, but in the end, to one of those photos I sneakily took of Brenden and our boyfriend napping together, she said something like "Awww! So adorable :heart:" :keke:

My own immediate family members reacted with zero judgement. Having explained what we meant by polyamory and told them a bit about the guy we'd met, what we liked about him and the time we'd spent with him, they seemed to have no prejudice about any of it and just seemed to be excited for us and happy for and supportive of what makes us happy.

That includes my mom, a 62-year-old grandmother who goes to church every Sunday. She has since also said our boyfriend would be very welcome to come visit with us sometime and stay over at her house (and that she'll happily buy a bigger bed for my old room if needed, a "triple bed" she joked :lol:) or join a family vacation, e.g. to see Prague or Portugal (in which case she covers all accommodation and food etc. for everyone). :3

Sherri wrote:Brenden and Rene, I commend you for your polyfidelity. I hope everything works out the way you want it to :).

Thank you! :keke:
ImageImageImageImage
User avatar
René
Administrator
 
Posts: 6479
+1s received: 2138
Joined: 20 December 2012, 20:12
Location: Lanarkshire, Scotland / Maryland, USA
Country: United Kingdom (gb)

Re: The Polyamory/Polyfidelity Thread

Unread postby erti » 2 August 2020, 19:11

René wrote:
erti wrote:Out of curiosity, do you guys have any idea what you have plan for you in the future with the 3 y’all. Family with the 3 of you? Adopt a child and settle down? I wouldn’t mind of having a poly relationship. I’m not a jealous person and I have a lot of love to go around. There’s a lot of dynamics to a relationship and being with more than just one makes it even harder.

Settle down together, ideally buy a nice house in Scotland together (as far as Brenden and I are concerned), adopt a Boxer puppy to raise together, and live happily ever after. :D

Keep doing all the things we've been enjoying so far like cuddling up to TV shows and movies, playing board games and video games, cooking together, sex, waking up next to each other, etc., finally go see some things together when the pandemic is over, meet each other's families, go to family events like birthdays and holidays together, travel together, enjoy having three incomes in one household, etc. :keke:

Probably have a three-way wedding-type ceremony at some point, making a public commitment to each other and signing an agreement that basically confers all the rights and duties of marriage as much as possible in a way that makes sense for three people. Grow old together. :3

We haven't talked about children between the three of us. I don't have a strong opinion. So far it's seemed like something Brenden and I totally aren't ready for. But if any of us really wanted it I'd be up for it, and it would be a massive benefit raising a child with 3 parents. Way more feasible than with 2. :P



I know one thong though... I would of loved to have 3 gay men as parents. The whole it takes a village to raise a kid come to play. You all are going to have a big family.
User avatar
erti
 
Posts: 1238
+1s received: 800
Joined: 30 November 2018, 09:58
Location: Columbus, Ohio
Country: United States (us)

Re: The Polyamory/Polyfidelity Thread

Unread postby Eos » 2 August 2020, 20:57

I just wondered, how are you sleeping together? Do you use a 2-person bed ? I'm not even sure larger bed exist ^^

Also I needed to point to Sherri that I love your profile picture, it's good to see Mass Effect fans ^^
Eos
 
Posts: 175
+1s received: 83
Joined: 2 April 2019, 07:30
Country: France (fr)

Re: The Polyamory/Polyfidelity Thread

Unread postby René » 2 August 2020, 21:14

Eos wrote:I just wondered, how are you sleeping together? Do you use a 2-person bed ? I'm not even sure larger bed exist ^^

Spooning in an American Queen-size bed. Brenden is big spoon, boyfriend is middle spoon, I'm little spoon. :D

Arrangements vary when we nap. We don't always all nap. But we always fit fine on the bed. We obviously don't mind snuggling up. :3

(This was also discussed a bit here after the photos :P)

American bed sizes are a little on the small side compared to what we're used to in Europe... but this is a larger US size, so it works out. (152 x 202 cm)
ImageImageImageImage
User avatar
René
Administrator
 
Posts: 6479
+1s received: 2138
Joined: 20 December 2012, 20:12
Location: Lanarkshire, Scotland / Maryland, USA
Country: United Kingdom (gb)

Previous

Recently active
Users browsing this forum: abash107, CommonCrawl [Bot], dragonfire, Eos and 54 guests