The unreliability of youth

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The unreliability of youth

Unread postby uncut7in » 26 May 2019, 17:02

As I've got older I find I'm increasingly attracted to much younger guys. I don't find any difficulty in making contact with 18-25s, in fact it's usually them who make the first move.

The pattern is usually the same - we exchange messages for a couple of weeks, they sound really interested, then when I suggest a meet they go quiet.

I expect I'm not alone in this though it is frustrating. The few young guys I have met have enjoyed meeting an appreciative older guy.
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Re: The unreliability of youth

Unread postby Eryx » 27 May 2019, 19:33

I don't think you'll have much luck with that. From personal experience (as a younger guy), when I'm single I'm only interested in older men for a one-time thing. Even those who say they aren't actively seeking a relationship look for people they can go through years with, and that's the most unattractive part of any older guy: the uncertainty of the maintenance of attraction and the health concerns.

If you can feel attraction towards men your age, I suggest you invest more on that. Unless you find that one golden boy who likes gray hair, you'll be forced to become well acquainted with repeated frustration.

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Re: The unreliability of youth

Unread postby UndercoverLover » 28 May 2019, 06:04

I agree with the post above me. Also depends on what you consider to be "older." (I say this because although I'm in my early 30s, I sometimes consider myself to be old)

I have hooked up with lots of older men.. Only dated one though. He was a nice guy but I was way too young. (not like a child or anything, but being that he was a teacher it could have ruined his career) But who knows? You very well might find that guy who is looking for someone older for a serious relationship. Age has never been a hang up for me as far as giving someone a chance, but generally I don't go out of my way looking for someone way older just because with most of my experiences, we just happen to have way different hobbies or nothing in common.
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Re: The unreliability of youth

Unread postby Yeauxleaux » 28 May 2019, 10:11

I think it depends how much older

Personally I am attracted to somewhat older men (like 30s/early 40s) and always have been to a degree. I would date slightly older and actually have in the past. However one thing that does concern me is, let's say I date a guy who is pushing 50 now, by the time I'm 40 he's going to be well into his 60s, probably wanting to retire and live a quieter life while I'm still relatively young and active. That thought can put me off.

Also let's be real this is gay men we're talking about. "I like older men" means someone who is aging like Ricky Martin, or that dude who plays Negan in The Walking Dead, not someone who looks like a normal 50 year old. Unless they have a lot of money anyway.
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