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This guy is confusing me...

Unread postby Dont.Get.Me.Started » 25 March 2019, 05:51

Okay so I’m going to start by saying I’m gay but I’m not out, and there’s this fine ass guy that I work with. He claims he’s straight but I’m not so sure. Here’s why. It all started when he spent the night at my house one time. I told him I would blow up an air mattress for him or he could just sleep in my bed and without hesitation he was like “I’ll sleep in the bed.” So when bed time came, he was under the covers in the very middle of the bed. He lifted the blanket and motioned me to join him. So I climbed in bed expecting him to scoot over, but he never did. So we sat there shoulders together. So when we finally decided to go to sleep, I rolled over with my back towards him. After maybe 30 minutes I was almost asleep but I was woken up to the feeling of him rolling over and wrapping his arm around me and well spooning me. Nothing happened but it was super weird.

Well fast forward a few weeks and we’re hanging out (mind you by this point he knows that I’m gay and that I have a huge crush on him) and so we’re getting ready to go our separate ways and he leans over and kisses me on the cheek, and then proceeds to smile really big and say “that was a perfectly normal ‘straight’ kiss” and then he’s like “love you” and he went and got in his car.

Like is that normal?! Normally, ‘straight’ men (Especially in the south where I live) act super uncomfortable around gay people. But like he cuddles me, hugs me all of the time, and then gave me a kiss? I’m just really confused and I don’t know what to do.
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Re: This guy is confusing me...

Unread postby Eryx » 25 March 2019, 13:20

Yeah, it does seem like he's hitting on you. You should probably find a way to bring it up without making him feel like he's being pressured into a corner, or maybe just flat out ask him out since he's giving so many signs.

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Re: This guy is confusing me...

Unread postby mxguy01 » 25 March 2019, 17:28

I think it depends upon timeline. How long has transpired?

If not long has transpired since these events, I'd be tempted to let it run it's course. Worse case is you have a straight friend who is ok with cuddling with you. Not such a bad deal LoL. The advantage of "friend" IMO is you get to a point faster where you can speak your mind and not so much be concerned about the response. Other case may be he is struggling with his sexuality but for whatever reason is going with playing the straight game for now. Third case is he is totally gay and messing with you. I'd take any of that and just enjoy the situation.
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Re: This guy is confusing me...

Unread postby SweetBoy2312 » 26 March 2019, 02:16

I have a hard on reading all of this. It's too cute. He might be gay or bisexual. It's hard to tell. After all even some straight guys have a bromance. They might cuddle and kiss guys but don't have sex with them. He really needs to clear it up for you.
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Re: This guy is confusing me...

Unread postby Jryski » 6 May 2019, 13:58

Why not just ask him?
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