Told a friend I like im gay. Need help :(

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Told a friend I like im gay. Need help :(

Unread postby Tyhaehu » 22 August 2022, 23:38

So this guy (19) and I (19) have known each other for 1 year now. I have basically known that he was gay since before he came into my friend group. Tho i was very secretive about my sexuality and never told him. A couple of months before we became friends i had seen him on tinder, i imediatly knew it was him and on the section where they advertise tinder+ it said "[His name] likes you". So i assumed he had already liked my profile since his name isnt that common aswell. I swiped away his profile cause I felt it was awkward to talk to a guy that i know from my school.

Now 1 year later i have gotten to known him pretty well and we have hung out alot, played video games etc together. "Yesterday night he sent me some funny tiktoks and then he asked me: "I have a question i have wanted to ask for a long time but forgot, last year i saw a tinder profile that was you, did anyone use your pictures to catfish or that was actually you?" I said: "Yes that was me, sorry i never told you before :/" He said: "It's okay, it took awhile for me to come out aswell". I told him: "I feel really bad that i never had told you before, i've wanted many times but then never got myself to do it" After that he opened the message right away, but he took like 1 hour for him to respond, i saw him like entering and exiting the chat multiple times and typing but yet it still took him 1 hour to say: "Of course i wont tell anyone, my gaydar is pretty good tbh" I responded with: It's okay, one of our friends already know and im gonna try to not be secretive about it anymore. I'm assuming u had ur guesses that i was gay before then?" And after that he opened the message but never responded. Just like the last message i saw him popping in and out from the chat typing or just silently being in there. I was so confused why he did this. Then it just stopped and i assumed he went to sleep since it was 2am. I thought to myself that maybe he just needed to think about it or something and would respond in the morning. Now it has gone 24 hours since that message and im kinda anxious why he didnt reply to my question, why did he have such a hard time typing something. And why would he even ask me about seeing my tinder profile when it was so long ago? Did he have any intentions with it?

I had planned to later ask him if he ever could imagine me as being something more than just a friend. But when the conversation stopped like that i couldn't really type it. My hope is that he also likes me as i like him. Im kinda ranting here so if you find this post to be childish or whatever plz just don't write anything. Just plz help me figure this out 😭 Should i maybe text him again even tho he kinda ghosted me and left me on read?
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Re: Told a friend I like im gay. Need help :(

Unread postby 21-79BB! » 23 August 2022, 14:44

I don't think you are ranting;you are expressing the feelings within you. You are not being childish, either. You have the courage to reveal your true self in this forum. And you both have already come out to each other. Human nature being what it is, give yourself the chance to interact WITHOUT the interference of social media!!! Building a caring relationship takes time, so get in ouch with him by phone, visit, or however you have before. Sit down in private for a frank and open discussion about how the two of you feel about each other. Learn about each other's hobbies and interests. Have the courage to talk about sensual and sexual needs and desires. See how warm hugs and deep kissing feel. Spend time nude together. Try sharing erotic massage to learn about each others' bodies. Bring extended jacking and fellatio into the picture. Learn the fine art (and intense, sustained pleasure!) of navel orgasm (navelgasm). (NO refractory period! I speak from long experience!) Good luck to you both as you move forward. Let us know how things go!!
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