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Trans Dating

Unread postby Gaygoddess » 19 December 2020, 21:53

Hey y'all! Sooooooo I have really mixed feelings about what I'm going to lay on you. I have this friend who's transitioning from FTM and I love him (as a friend) but now I'm not sure if I wanna pursue something more with him. I feel super uncomfortable because I know he's a man but I'm so clueless about the sexual aspect of the relationship if it ever got there. I can't tell if I'm just being ridiculous and I'm too afraid to have a discussion about this with him because I don't want to make him feel bad or offended. I just know we get along really well, and I catch myself wanting to flirt with him way more than allow myself to. What do I do?
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Re: Trans Dating

Unread postby Marmaduke » 19 December 2020, 21:54

Don’t date friends. It’s amongst the fastest and easiest ways of ruining friendships. Stay friends, pursue someone else romantically.

Problem solved.
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Re: Trans Dating

Unread postby Gaygoddess » 19 December 2020, 22:03

Marmaduke wrote:Don’t date friends. It’s amongst the fastest and easiest ways of ruining friendships. Stay friends, pursue someone else romantically.

Problem solved.


I guess? I'd rather date someone who I'm friends with.. I'm happy we started as friends first because I was actually able to get to know him without getting distracted by his appearance. I just don't know how to tackle the sexual stuff. I'm a bottom but how would it even work? I guess he could get a strap on but I want to please him and don't know if that would be sufficient. Vagina makes me squeamish but I don't want to say that and trigger his dysphoria. Maybe I just have to get over it? I'm not sure but would love to hear from anyone who has gone through something similar.
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Re: Trans Dating

Unread postby Eryx » 26 December 2020, 16:44

Do you even know if he's gay?
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Re: Trans Dating

Unread postby Gaygoddess » 26 December 2020, 17:17

Eryx wrote:Do you even know if he's gay?


Yup, he’s bisexual!
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Re: Trans Dating

Unread postby Eryx » 27 December 2020, 22:08

Then I guess the biggest issues are whether or not he'll feel the same way about you and how to make sex compatible. Maybe pegging would work? You being an exclusive bottom definitely complicates things.
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Re: Trans Dating

Unread postby henrynb » 25 January 2021, 16:57

I think talk to your friend! Let him know that you're having these feelings, as well as the hesitancies! When engaging in a new romantic dynamic, regardless of gender and sexuality, a conversation around pleasure/boundaries/likes/dislikes should be had. You might be surprised or excited to hear how he likes to receive and give pleasure, and it might be more compatible than you think :). I am FtM, and have some dysphoria around my parts, but when introducing different language to them with a sexual partner, it makes me feel hot and bothered. When someone is going down on me, they are "sucking my dick". When I'm turned on "I'm hard". etc
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