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Unread postby manfromrobinhood » 7 August 2020, 12:14

First, I'm new to this venue, and hope I find helpful advice. A bit about myself, I am 64, others tell me I am handsome, fit (32' waist), my endowment is above average, bottom, and my sexual appetite is more than healthy. My partner is 70, extremely handsome, the most kind loving man I've ever known. Like many new to relationships sex was beyond wonderful. 5X-6X/week. Of course, I knew that would wane a bit once we moved in together and followed daily routines. It did 3X - 4X/week. After 6 years together, we are now at 1X/week with anal only 1X/month. Allow me to write, that I pride myself in cleanliness, so that is not an issue. Also, my partner is very reserved in sharing discussions. Talking about sex is a mute topic, and one that would have negative results. I have suggested testosterone testing, but that only occurs with his annual physical. Let me add, he has no problem with erections, thus that is not the problem. Our relationship is not in danger as we are totally monogamous and faithful. Truly, I love this man more than I ever imagined possible. We do enjoy some foreplay (mutual masturbation, oral, rimming) but nothing as passionate as in the first years. To address my needs I do in private partake in toy play. Still, I want him. Please submit any advice. Let me add, I was once in an open relationship. True, I enjoyed the additional fun, but for me I found it harmful to relationship. Bringing someone else in is not a possibility.
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby Brenden » 7 August 2020, 12:57

manfromrobinhood wrote:A bit about myself, I am 64, others tell me I am handsome, fit (32' waist), […].

Others tell you your waist size?
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby manfromrobinhood » 21 August 2020, 23:26

Thank you Brenden for your genuine concern.
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby Jzone » 22 August 2020, 00:13

You might forgive Brenden his attempt at humor — or not.

We all age differently; whether it is ability, drive, or desire. If you really love this guy and get more from other aspects of your relationship than you do from sex, I suggest you accept that sex is simply not a priority for him any more. It likely doesn't have anything to do with you or his feelings for you. At his age (and yours) you are lucky that erections themselves are not a challenge. You don't have to like it, but if he is not willing to talk about the declining sex life in your relationship you might have to accept it. If that is unacceptable to you, I don't know what to say. Counseling solo or together may help. Talking with him about everything other than your sex life might also give you some clues as to what is going on for him.

Most of the members on this forum are in a very different stage of life than you and me. Although some of them have to deal with differing levels of sexual desire with their partners, it's usually not the same issue when you are 25 as when you are 60+. Good luck going forward.
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby Heydam » 24 August 2020, 03:37

While you want constant sex, some of us don’t get it like you too. I feel you should talk to your partner about your sexual needs. Maybe try new things as well.
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Unread postby manfromrobinhood » 24 August 2020, 11:08

Thank you again, Jzone. In addition, thank you Heydam. You two helped me realize how fortunate I am.
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby Jryski » 25 August 2020, 05:28

You found a great guy! Y’all are quite a bit up there in age and not everyone in that age range can handle sex 5-6 times a week. It’s the moments ya share together that matters most. :3
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby dragonfire » 25 August 2020, 06:50

I agree with Jryski. While not trying to belittle your concerns, that emotional connection can be much more important for me than the physical one. There are numerous ways to work on your sex life and to find ways of satisfying you both and communicating better that way, but finding that spark and that love for someone isn’t half as easy. In my experience anyway.
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Re: Waning sex

Unread postby manfromrobinhood » 31 August 2020, 23:56

Thank you to dragonfire and Jryski. I'm humbled that you take the time to reply.
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