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What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Marcus » 5 February 2019, 20:55

I sometimes visit club that are arranged by an LGBT organization, and I highly suspect that one of the guys there is interested in me (I have seen him there twice recently, and I usually stay for about one hour).
I also suspect that he is timid and submissive, partly because he rarely speaks and his voice is always soft and quiet, and he is definitely more of a follower.
Also, he is the smallest person at that club, whereas I am the biggest - he is maybe about 5'5 and is both shy and delicate, whereas I am 6'6 and very broad and muscular, so there is a great contrast between us.

The signs that I have noticed so far are that he will frequently glance at me with large curious innocent eyes and a shy expression and give me a soft smile (this has happened at least 10 times both visits), and if I look back at him then he blushes a bit and looks away.
Also, if we stand somewhere and take some cake or something then he will always make sure to stand right beside me for a while, until we make contact for a moment.
I have also noticed that he has always been in my plain sight when he has taken off one of his shirts, and one time he even seemed to pretend to brush something off his butt when I was watching him from a distance (about 3 quick strokes), then he glanced back at me for a brief moment with those large, shy innocent eyes again.

What would you say are some reliable "shy" and "submissive" signs?
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Stardust » 5 February 2019, 21:32

I'm not sure there are any universal signs, it probably depends on the person.

From what you've said though, this guy is definitely into you :)
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Marcus » 5 February 2019, 21:40

Stardust wrote:I'm not sure there are any universal signs, it probably depends on the person.

From what you've said though, this guy is definitely into you :)

Yes, I get the feeling that he is trying to appear both cute and alluring at the same time.
Definitely a turn-on to me, to be honest.

Like I said, the strongest sign is the fact that he constantly glances at me with a certain shy warm smile, and his eyes are always large and curious when he looks in my direction.
Last time I came there in a tight T-shirt, and his first reaction to that was to really stare for a couple seconds, and he also raised his eyebrows a lot.
He looked really cute, just like a baby who is extremely focused on something very interesting.
Then after that he went back to glancing at me every now and then.

I am not sure if he knows that I find him cute, but maybe I should show some clear signs myself, haha.
I feel like maybe he is intimidated by me because of our size difference, and I also have a fairly strict neutral expression and I am very assertive (I am very social and talkative and I got the attention of all the people there quite quickly), which are traits that he doesn't seem to have - he is mostly quiet and "in the background" and doesn't really speak that much.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 5 February 2019, 23:40

Just ask him out lol
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Marcus » 6 February 2019, 00:35

Eryx wrote:Just ask him out lol
I will do that next time.
I guess I should take small steps though, since he seems a bit intimidated by me.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 6 February 2019, 11:24

Start by asking his name, how he found out about the organization, stuff like that. I guess I used to be that guy so it's something I'd appreciate :P

At least you both know you're gay, that's a great way to start.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Brasileiro » 6 February 2019, 18:22

Marcus wrote:The signs that I have noticed so far are that he will frequently glance at me with large curious innocent eyes and a shy expression and give me a soft smile (this has happened at least 10 times both visits), and if I look back at him then he blushes a bit and looks away.
Also, if we stand somewhere and take some cake or something then he will always make sure to stand right beside me for a while, until we make contact for a moment.
I have also noticed that he has always been in my plain sight when he has taken off one of his shirts, and one time he even seemed to pretend to brush something off his butt when I was watching him from a distance (about 3 quick strokes), then he glanced back at me for a brief moment with those large, shy innocent eyes again.

These are all pretty clear signs of flirting, no matter the character of the guy. Non verbal communication is something you do subconciously, but you can do it conciously too.
A good way to find out if someone is interested is if he will mirror your moves. like if you cross your arms, he´ will do it too.

There are a lot of sites about non verbal communication, I will try to find you one and post it here.

http://therealgayguy.com/2016/03/10-sig ... ng-on-you/

This is a simple one.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 6 February 2019, 23:44

There is a selection of colored handkerchief's, worn in the back pocket and what they are a sign of on Wikipedia.
"Enter Hankerchief code"


Dark Blue and Gray are the ones that I use. :)
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Marcus » 7 February 2019, 00:38

Brasileiro wrote:
Marcus wrote:The signs that I have noticed so far are that he will frequently glance at me with large curious innocent eyes and a shy expression and give me a soft smile (this has happened at least 10 times both visits), and if I look back at him then he blushes a bit and looks away.
Also, if we stand somewhere and take some cake or something then he will always make sure to stand right beside me for a while, until we make contact for a moment.
I have also noticed that he has always been in my plain sight when he has taken off one of his shirts, and one time he even seemed to pretend to brush something off his butt when I was watching him from a distance (about 3 quick strokes), then he glanced back at me for a brief moment with those large, shy innocent eyes again.

These are all pretty clear signs of flirting, no matter the character of the guy. Non verbal communication is something you do subconciously, but you can do it conciously too.
A good way to find out if someone is interested is if he will mirror your moves. like if you cross your arms, he´ will do it too.

There are a lot of sites about non verbal communication, I will try to find you one and post it here.

http://therealgayguy.com/2016/03/10-sig ... ng-on-you/

This is a simple one.

Thanks, yeah I realise that his glancing and smiling are most likely shy signs of interest, but what about those moments when he took off one of his shirts and that time when he brushed something off his butt and glanced in my direction for a brief moment?
Was he maybe trying to seduce me there, or were they just coincidences?
I feel like they were done on purpose, since he made sure to walk up somewhere where I could clearly see him right before he did it.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 7 February 2019, 00:38

Shaved-Nudist wrote:There is a selection of colored handkerchief's, worn in the back pocket and what they are a sign of on Wikipedia.
"Enter Hankerchief code"


Dark Blue and Gray are the ones that I use. :)
I think that part of the gay culture got lost in the 80s unfortunately. Handkerchiefs were used a lot here in Brazil as well but most people my age and below have no idea what they mean or that they were even a thing back then... I wish it stuck around :(

Marcus wrote:Thanks, yeah I realise that his glancing and smiling are most likely shy signs of interest, but what about those moments when he took off one of his shirts and that time when he brushed something off his butt and glanced in my direction for a brief moment?
Was he maybe trying to seduce me there, or were they just coincidences?
I feel like they were done on purpose, since he made sure to walk up somewhere where I could clearly see him right before he did it.
I do think those were signs, especially considering the setting. Since you've noticed he's shy and keeps to himself, I still think you should be the one to make the first approach. Wondering about his actions endlessly won't get you anywhere, and if he stops going he's just going to be a shot you lost with someone.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Marcus » 7 February 2019, 00:48

Eryx wrote:I do think those were signs, especially considering the setting. Since you've noticed he's shy and keeps to himself, I still think you should be the one to make the first approach. Wondering about his actions endlessly won't get you anywhere, and if he stops going he's just going to be a shot you lost with someone.
Right on, yeah I will make sure to walk up to him now on Saturday and show him that he won't need to be intimidated by me, haha.

By the way, is it common that someone shows interest by inviting the other person to look at them in a sexual way?
I noticed that this guy looked a bit flattered when he saw that I was checking out his butt when he glanced back at me - he didn't actually smile or anything like that, but they way he looked back at me with his large innocent eyes and a hint of a smile made it look like he felt flattered and delighted that I checked him out like that.
He definitely wasn't uncomfortable about it all, anyway.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 7 February 2019, 09:43

It's common for people who are comfortable with their sexuality, I suppose. Any kind of attention thrown towards oneself can be flattering, depending on the setting.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby rogonandi » 7 February 2019, 11:02

If he’s as timid and submissive as you say, then you’ll have to make the first move and ask him out for a date. Even if you misread his signals then you’ll be able to get on with it and stop wondering what’s going on with him. :)
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Marcus » 8 February 2019, 05:44

Yeah, I will approach him now on Saturday, and see how he reacts.

I gotta say that it was quite a turn-on when I noticed that I could check out his ass without making him uncomfortable at all. :D
He saw that I took several turns checking him out there and looking him in the eyes, and he just gazed towards me with large cute eyes and looked very comfortable with it.
I certainly enjoyed the moment, hah.
And I had my eyes resting on his ass for probably 2-3 seconds several times while he was gazing in my directions, so I know that he noticed it.
His eyes also expressed a lot of tenderness, just as if he was in love with me or something;
it was a very romantic gaze of the cutest possible kind, just as if he tried to say "please... come up to me" with his eyes.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 8 February 2019, 15:15

At the gym that I workout at there is a guy that has taken long looks at my shaved body when I am nude. He has a great nude body as well. We have chatted a few times and I bumped him a couple of times in the gang shower, he has done the same to me. As we chat, I have slowly brought up the topic of sexuality. I think that he is interested in me as well.
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby mastmck » 8 February 2019, 22:03

Marcus wrote:His eyes also expressed a lot of tenderness, just as if he was in love with me or something;
it was a very romantic gaze of the cutest possible kind, just as if he tried to say "please... come up to me" with his eyes.

If he's shy then he might be trying to invite you to go up to him without saying anything out of uncertainty on if you're interested in him or not
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby Eryx » 11 February 2019, 14:14

Marcus wrote:Yeah, I will approach him now on Saturday, and see how he reacts.

I gotta say that it was quite a turn-on when I noticed that I could check out his ass without making him uncomfortable at all. :D
He saw that I took several turns checking him out there and looking him in the eyes, and he just gazed towards me with large cute eyes and looked very comfortable with it.
I certainly enjoyed the moment, hah.
And I had my eyes resting on his ass for probably 2-3 seconds several times while he was gazing in my directions, so I know that he noticed it.
His eyes also expressed a lot of tenderness, just as if he was in love with me or something;
it was a very romantic gaze of the cutest possible kind, just as if he tried to say "please... come up to me" with his eyes.
That's really cute. Keep us updated!
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Re: What are some signs of interest from a timid, submissive guy?

Unread postby mastmck » 15 February 2019, 23:38

How did it go last Saturday ?
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