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What do you do when your boss at work comes on to you?

Unread postby Koftruecross » 19 February 2019, 13:48

Back when I was young and still looked like this I got a job as waiter in a small family owned restaurant. The head waiter Vincent was the one who hired me.. I only worked there for about three days when Vincent came on to me.. I told him I wasn't interested but that did not stop him. He tried to force himself on me in the stock room behind the kitchen...
I fought him off of me and left. And I never even went back for my pay check.....I was angry because I was poor and I needed the money.. I knew better than to approach Vincent's grandmother that was the head manager of the restaurant. I knew it would not go well if I had told her what Vincent had done.. It was the very early 1980's therefore filing a law suit for sexual harassment was not possible.. This was especially true when it came to gay harrasment...
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Unread postby Koftruecross » 19 February 2019, 14:26

Another reason I was angry was that Vincent's family owned the gay bars in the city. He told me if I ever showed my face there again he would kill me.......But in the end it worked out rather well only because I did not go back for my pay check.. It turned out that was the absolute best thing I could have done..
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Unread postby Eryx » 19 February 2019, 18:38

You were quite handsome! As for your title, the only time something like this happened to me was when my last boss went to a club with me and kissed me. I was already about to leave the company and I thought he was quite attractive, so I reciprocated. It was totally worth it :)
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Unread postby Koftruecross » 19 February 2019, 19:24

Thanks for the compliment..I am so glad it worked out for you!...In the end it did work out for me as well.. For an entire year after that episode I was angry with Vincent... I didn't go to the gay bars that Vincent's family owned.. I loved going to the clubs because I could dress like a rock star. I could wear clothes I couldn't wear anywhere else in my conservative environment.. Finally after a year I decided I would go no matter what. I didn't care if Vincent would try to kill me... I was in line to pay the cover charge... When it came my turn to pay...the man at the door said to me.."No charge for you Christopher." And when I went to the bar the bartender said, "Your drinks are on the house Christopher." And I never ever saw Vincent there in the clubs at all.... I never saw him again.. And I continued to enjoy free drinks and free admission there after. Thirty years later I learned that Vincent's life had taken a rather nasty turn for the worse as a consequence of his sexually driven predatory behaviour.
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Unread postby Koftruecross » 19 February 2019, 19:33

It turned out that my decision NOT to go back for my pay check was one of the wisest decisions I had ever made..
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Unread postby grayarea1899 » 22 February 2019, 21:55

I’ve had two bosses hit on me. I had sex with both and in both cases it was a bad idea. The first guy I became his pet and co-workers started to notice and I eventually go mobbed out of the company. The only advantage was that we’d have sex at least once a dog if not more around the office, on his desk in the mends rooms. It was so risky and hot.

The second time I let it happen the boss started making demands on me to serve his every need. I had to quit that job as well. So I’m the end it never a good idea.
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Re: What do you do when your boss at work comes on to you?

Unread postby Koftruecross » 22 February 2019, 23:05

I agree. It is definitely NOT a good idea.
Corey's identical twin brother is not gay. But he started an affair with a gay man who then gave him a job. It did not work out. Corey's twin left town after that.. Never to be seen again.
In my case... my boss was in the closet.. I unintentionally OUTED him when I didn't go back for my pay. He was fired and kicked out of the family.. It turned out they had already suspected he might be gay and forcing himself on his workers long before I worked there.. They interrogated the hell out of him until he tearfully told them the truth about why I quit working there.. (I didn't know that until over 30 years later)...I never told the family ANYTHING and they never asked me anything...He ended up working with dead people at the city Morgue. I didnt feel bad because he tried to force himself on me. I hated it when guys tried to do that to me..It infuriated me all the more because he was my boss. ...I never imagined though that he would come to deeply regret his actions..
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