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What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 18 December 2018, 18:38

Many gays for same-sex marriage, but i think if could have chance i would rather have 3 to 6 other lovers that known about each other :D
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 18 December 2018, 18:41

Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, "many, several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all partners involved. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy".

Either that or you're a cheating lying bastard that will eventually be found out.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Eryx » 18 December 2018, 21:04

I'm okay with it and if people are happy doing it, then all the power to them, but it's not for me. I like the idea of having a partner in life, someone I can really count on and accomplish with. I want to grow with someone and look back and have that feeling of having built so much always by their side. I feel like if I had more than one relationship, I wouldn't be able to dedicate as much time to either, sometimes having to leave them hanging to please the other.

As for dating someone and openly having hook-ups on the side, I don't think I'd feel comfortable at all, so I don't impose that on other people. It's just not something I'm into and I don't think I ever will be lol. But yeah, to each their own!
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Unread postby rogonandi » 18 December 2018, 22:55

I think it's lovely for people who can pull it off. If they have what it takes to pull it off, then more power to them.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 December 2018, 00:23

Ok, so "I have a friend" LoL who is seeing two guys. Both guys understand he is not committing to be monogamous at this time. Basically he is refusing to be committed to just a single person. He's been doing some research about poly and found https://metro.co.uk/2017/06/28/what-is-polyamory-and-a-polyamorous-relationship-6741253/ which says

What are the benefits of a poly relationship? You can experience a unique and lasting love with more than one person, which opens you up to lots of different experiences with multiple people. If you’re feeling down, or need support, you’ll have more than one loving partner to turn to – which will add increased comfort and reassurance. It’s also a good setup for those who like to get creative in bed – with everyone being into different things in the bedroom, a person who wants to try lots of things can get experimental with more than one person, and learn things from multiple lovers.


and

How do you become polyamorous? Dedicated dating sites will offer poly friendly relationships, where people will start out in a poly setup. Other situations involve a single person entering another’s established poly relationship, and becoming part of the dynamic. Or you can transform a monogamous relationship into a poly one, although this can be harder and will take time.


Basically in "my friend's" case it was the case where the relationships transformed as he started to realize his limitations or needs depending upon your point of view.

So in this case of my friend is he Open or is he Poly?
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Gay-paul » 19 December 2018, 02:30

Eryx wrote:I'm okay with it and if people are happy doing it, then all the power to them, but it's not for me. I like the idea of having a partner in life, someone I can really count on and accomplish with. I want to grow with someone and look back and have that feeling of having built so much always by their side. I feel like if I had more than one relationship, I wouldn't be able to dedicate as much time to either, sometimes having to leave them hanging to please the other.

As for dating someone and openly having hook-ups on the side, I don't think I'd feel comfortable at all, so I don't impose that on other people. It's just not something I'm into and I don't think I ever will be lol. But yeah, to each their own!


I like reading your posts, but I still can not get rid of the unpleasant aftertaste, that people like us, or homosexuals, do something sinful and immoral

That being gay is a sin, my first major commitment to homosexuality took place if I was 18 and had an adventure with a boy a year younger than, although I will decide more commanding than me, even though we knew each other since I was 15 and he was 14, we goes to summer camp (mental hospital actually :D ) he had ADHD and I had Asperger Syndrome, he was from a small town, and was very athletic build, we like wanking together and I sucked him when we meet last time when I was 18 and he was 17.

The funniest thing that he and I, we told ourselves that we are not any gays, because gays are fucking in the ass of each other, and we just masturbate each other :-)
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Eryx » 19 December 2018, 11:24

No, that's still gay, it's not just anal sex that's gay.

The only person who can get rid of the "aftertaste" of considering it a sin is you. There is nothing wrong with being gay, it's only a different way to connect to other people. What I really do when I date someone is love the guy, take care of him, and root for him. If that's a sin, I'm going to be a sinner forever.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 19 December 2018, 15:18

I guess I was lucky to have the people who try to convince you of that bullshit fail even though that was the environment of my childhood.

I'm ok with going straight to hell over that one. If that's where all the gays go then I want to go there too!
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 20 December 2018, 00:07

I prefer that over monogamy. 90% people aren't really into monogamy. (in general, not just gay men)
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby SeraphimKnight » 20 December 2018, 01:28

It isn't for everyone for sure. Everyone involved has to want it. There has to be trust. There also has to be communication. I know that it sounds easy but you really have to be careful that the rules laid down are followed and that thise three things are followed well. Trust me, it isn't the paradise that so many people make it sound.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Eryx » 20 December 2018, 01:36

BlackBoi666 wrote:I prefer that over monogamy. 90% people aren't really into monogamy. (in general, not just gay men)
You're like a gay version of incels. :toogay:
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 20 December 2018, 19:45

I had to look up the definition. From Wikipedia -

Incels (a portmanteau of involuntary celibates) are members of an online subculture[1][2] who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom.[3] Self-identified incels are mostly white, male, and heterosexual.[4][5][6] Discussions in incel forums are often characterized by resentment, misanthropy,[1] self-pity,[7] self-loathing,[8] misogyny[9], racism[9], a sense of entitlement to sex, and the endorsement of violence against sexually active people.[5][6][10][11][9] The Southern Poverty Law Center described the subculture as "part of the online male supremacist ecosystem" that is included in their list of hate groups.[12][13] At least four mass murders, resulting in 45 deaths, have been committed in North America by people who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private writings or Internet postings. Incel communities have been criticized by the media and researchers for being misogynist, encouraging violence, as well as spreading extremist views and radicalizing their members.[2][4][14][15]

That appears to not be a good thing to be.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Eryx » 20 December 2018, 20:13

Yeah, it wasn't really a compliment...
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Szymonnikt » 20 December 2018, 21:24

Eryx wrote:I like the idea of having a partner in life, someone I can really count on and accomplish with. I want to grow with someone and look back and have that feeling of having built so much always by their side. I feel like if I had more than one relationship, I wouldn't be able to dedicate as much time to either, sometimes having to leave them hanging to please the other.


This is so sweet :)
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Unread postby BlackBoi666 » 21 December 2018, 06:11

mxguy01 wrote:I had to look up the definition. From Wikipedia -

Incels (a portmanteau of involuntary celibates) are members of an online subculture[1][2] who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom.[3] Self-identified incels are mostly white, male, and heterosexual.[4][5][6] Discussions in incel forums are often characterized by resentment, misanthropy,[1] self-pity,[7] self-loathing,[8] misogyny[9], racism[9], a sense of entitlement to sex, and the endorsement of violence against sexually active people.[5][6][10][11][9] The Southern Poverty Law Center described the subculture as "part of the online male supremacist ecosystem" that is included in their list of hate groups.[12][13] At least four mass murders, resulting in 45 deaths, have been committed in North America by people who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private writings or Internet postings. Incel communities have been criticized by the media and researchers for being misogynist, encouraging violence, as well as spreading extremist views and radicalizing their members.[2][4][14][15]

That appears to not be a good thing to be.

I don't really have a strong desire a romantic or sexual partner. and nobody is an incel if they have 50 to 100 bucks.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 21 December 2018, 08:42

BlackBoi666 wrote:
mxguy01 wrote:I had to look up the definition. From Wikipedia -

Incels (a portmanteau of involuntary celibates) are members of an online subculture[1][2] who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom.[3] Self-identified incels are mostly white, male, and heterosexual.[4][5][6] Discussions in incel forums are often characterized by resentment, misanthropy,[1] self-pity,[7] self-loathing,[8] misogyny[9], racism[9], a sense of entitlement to sex, and the endorsement of violence against sexually active people.[5][6][10][11][9] The Southern Poverty Law Center described the subculture as "part of the online male supremacist ecosystem" that is included in their list of hate groups.[12][13] At least four mass murders, resulting in 45 deaths, have been committed in North America by people who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private writings or Internet postings. Incel communities have been criticized by the media and researchers for being misogynist, encouraging violence, as well as spreading extremist views and radicalizing their members.[2][4][14][15]

That appears to not be a good thing to be.

I don't really have a strong desire a romantic or sexual partner. and nobody is an incel if they have 50 to 100 bucks.


Trust me when I say the "cost" of a "partner" is way higher than $50-$100.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby Eryx » 21 December 2018, 10:26

hahahaha depends on whether you care about the heroin stains on the "partner"'s arms or not :P
Point proven anyway
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Unread postby mxguy01 » 21 December 2018, 16:06

Eryx wrote:hahahaha depends on whether you care about the heroin stains on the "partner"'s arms or not :P
Point proven anyway


Yeah, I guess I'm excluding the ones found on street corners and in Walmart stores.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby PopTart » 21 December 2018, 16:32

I like the idea of being poly, in the abstract kinda thing, but in practice. I really don't think it's for me.

Like Eryx, I have no issue with those that do like it and can make it work. My honest opinion is that, sooner or later, someone ends up getting jealous or feeling left out, but maybe thats my bias :P

I'm a one guy kinda guy. Maybe I'm selfish but I like to think I'm a persons number one and i really like having someone else to be my number one.

When I'm with someone, no-one else really seems to hit my radar and I kinda want to be that for someone else :keke:

As I said, i like the idea in that, to be in a functional and successful poly relationship I think you have to be really grounded, self aware and have great communication skills and those are things i aspire to, I like the idea of being able to love more than one person, but either my heart is too small or my horizons too narrow. I just can't see myself being any of those things, having to juggle the kind of focus and dedication I want to give a partner, split to more than one person.
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Re: What do you think about open gay relationship?

Unread postby poolerboy0077 » 21 December 2018, 16:45

Michael (homomorphism) went from monogamous prude to shameless slut back to monogamous prude again. I wonder if there’s such a thing as too much cock that one can grow tired of.
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