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What do you think about this card?

Unread postby Disappearing » 2 October 2019, 20:53

What do you think about this? My husband received this card from a flight attendant after his round trip to India. The attendant was on both this departure and return from LAX to India. Supposedly my husband told him he was married, and they text several times while he was in India and after he got home. I found while looking for something else in my husband’s backpack. This was a trip he took May 30 for a funeral.
The envelope was addressed to Boo Boo with an infinity type symbol. The inside was as follows:
I am so grateful and blessed that we had a chance to connect. As I am enjoying our times together immensely! You are such a thoughtful, kind, sweet, intelligent, and I appreciate very much.
Here’s to many more times together-

We have been married 5 years and in a relationship for 10.
I need your opinion about the contents of this card.
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby Marmaduke » 2 October 2019, 21:10

It would appear that your husband has romanced a slightly clingy Indian flight attendant.

Wait. Sorry. No. I’ve misread what you wrote, of course you know he’s romanced the flight attendant. That’s obvious. You want my opinion on the contents of the card.

The infinity symbol is such a cliche, and it’s awfully clingy to be using it to refer to a relationship with someone that has presumably existed for mere days. I also find infantile pet names like Boo Boo to be a bit gross in most instances. Otherwise, it’s a quite polite little note. At least the chap was grateful for the effort your husband seems to have put in. I find myself drawing the conclusion that such a seemingly nice chap wouldn’t be engaging knowingly in an extra-marital dalliance. Your husband probably takes his ring off on trips when he’s not with you.

You two should have a conversation about it. Certainly better you and him, than you and us. We’re only going to jump to the same conclusions.

You and your husband, that is. Not you and your husband’s lover. Although, you and he would also be a more constructive conversation than you and us.
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby Disappearing » 2 October 2019, 21:31

Thank you for your reply.
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby Eryx » 2 October 2019, 21:51

Yeah, that's an affair, probably. Show him the card and watch how long he goes without admitting to it, that's how you'll find out how important his affair is to him. Good luck! And I'm sorry you're going through this.
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 2 October 2019, 23:37

What Eryx said above.

Oh and noting your other post about him - general-discussions/out-but-hiding-t10824/#p199494 - perhaps his not wanting to be "out" is the fact he might run into others. Sorry for planting that seed of doubt but surely now you'll speak with him about it all.

If I were a betting man, I'd bet it is "dump and run" time for you.
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby NvM » 3 October 2019, 02:22

to repeat what was said before, it was well said, I am sorry you are going through this now.

invasion of privacy:
I am married but if my husband wants to go through my cell phone he can. even better he can have it for a day or two and read through it at his pleasure. If he wants to look at my charge card statement all good. I dont do anything that would entice my husband to distrust me. Once trust is lost it is real difficult to regain it.

i would talk to your husband about his indiscretion.
insist you will pin up his little note onto the bedroom wall above the bed. After all the note is the elephant in the room no matter how much he says he loves you.

again sorry.
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby Disappearing » 3 October 2019, 04:28

Thank you
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby kenzie_matt » 3 October 2019, 09:49

As said by others, also sorry to hear this. Have to agree, this does not seem like an innocent card. If it was somebody who gave it to him randomly for no reason, why keep it? Just throw it out. There's only one reason to keep a note like that.
NvM wrote:I am married but if my husband wants to go through my cell phone he can. even better he can have it for a day or two and read through it at his pleasure. If he wants to look at my charge card statement all good.

Relationship goals right here. This how a relationship should be.
NvM wrote:Once trust is lost it is real difficult to regain it.

Agree 100%
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Re: What do you think about this card?

Unread postby Disappearing » 3 October 2019, 23:05

Just to let all replies know my husband and I talked about this and he states nothing happened sexually. All they did was talk for several hours on the back and forth plane trips and my husband texted him during his stay in India and after he returned home.
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