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Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 11 June 2019, 10:27

I used Grindr pretending to be my boyfriend to see if there are any recent guys he slept with (I know, it’s wrong). I text a guy and send “my” pictures. He replies “We have met before”. I then ask, when? And he says “You suc*** me off two weeks ago. In your car”. My heart was racing and I wanted to die. I continue the conversation and say, since there were no pictures of this guy, “are you sure it was so recently? Which car was it?”. He says “an estate car”. Guys, my boyfriend does not have an estate car, he’s got a tiny corsa… I send a picture of the model of the car and the guy confirms it wasn’t that car. I should have stopped but I’m tormented. I mean, what is the chance of someone mistaking my boyfriend for someone else, claiming he had suc*** them off, as I show them his pictures? Should I break up with him notwithstanding the car discrepancy? Thank you. I’m in pieces to be honest.
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Unread postby Eryx » 11 June 2019, 10:48

Someone could be using his pictures, how recent are they? I've been sent my own pictures once on Grindr.
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Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 11 June 2019, 10:52

Quite recent. It’s the pictures he used when he was on Grindr when he was single 6 months ago. But still, he recognized his face claiming he actually met him two weeks ago??
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Unread postby Eryx » 11 June 2019, 12:45

Yeah, that's a tough situation. If you ask him about it, you'll have to admit to snooping and pretending you were him. If you don't, the possibility won't ever leave your head. You've set yourself up for a terrible situation. I think in this case, I'd probably talk about it, after all if he's been cheating on you, he's not worth your time, if he hasn't, then you can apologize. Either way, it's better than dealing with the doubt all the time.
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Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 11 June 2019, 12:49

I told him of course and he denied it. still, it’s not that he had much of a choice did he! So yeah, the thought is still there and I have no idea what to do next
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Unread postby Iamjava » 11 June 2019, 13:18

maybe consider the possibility that hes telling the truth? honestly, the guy sounds like he was just getting his rocks off.
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Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 11 June 2019, 13:31

@iamjava Who is possibly telling the truth? My bf or the guy?
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Unread postby Iamjava » 11 June 2019, 13:45

your bf, of course. he could be lying. then again, given the evidence, chances are that the online guy was just tryhng to get action. either that, or your bf went out of his way to rent a car. (which would be preposterous.)
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Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 11 June 2019, 14:27

@iamjava you might be right. Yet there’s a part of me that think it’s easier that he got the car wrong than the face, ie, what are the chances of so positively claim “u suc**** me ok” after I send two pics. Idk... right now were split. But I’m devastated because I’m not 100% positive he did cheat
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Unread postby Eryx » 11 June 2019, 14:36

Iamjava wrote:or your bf went out of his way to rent a car. (which would be preposterous.)
I agree, if he actually went out of his way to get a blowjob with a stranger, getting a motel room would probably be the first choice before actually renting a different car to avoid suspicion lol
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Unread postby Iamjava » 11 June 2019, 15:50

good point. after all, getting a blow job in a car to begin with would be dangerous and stupid.

as far as the facial recognition is concerned, mistaken identity isnt uncommon. it is also quite telling about your relationship when you prefer to believe a random internet stranger over your boyfriend.
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Unread postby lifeonmars93 » 11 June 2019, 16:25

@iamjava thank you for your reply. What would be your reaction then, given all the above? You would feel like giving him the benefit of the doubt ?
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Unread postby Iamjava » 11 June 2019, 16:28

sure. but then again, i trust my fiance enough that ive never had to worry about this issue.
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Re: What would you guys do?

Unread postby Jryski » 14 June 2019, 03:12

Id say dump him if you really cant trust him and have to resort to these measures. Is that really how you wanna live the rest of your life anyways?
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