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When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Retroman76 » 29 January 2020, 16:39

I am not one of the noble ones who've transcended my pain and anger caused by chronic rejection. I wrote the attached blog entry in the spirit of total confession...I've behaved badly and that is why I am alone. Yet I feel no urge to rise above, to let go of grudges and bitterness, to heal. I cling to my misery like a teddy bear. And I find this quite interesting, as opposed to all those out there with sunny smiles and positive attitudes who've released their expectations of life and love and are content to accept blandness and self-denial in the guise of happiness.

Here's what I have to say. Scrooges, Draculas, Lokis, Miss Havishams, Grandmother Foxworths unite!!!

https://solitaryexorcism.wordpress.com/ ... -worth-it/
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Frigid » 31 January 2020, 19:56

Being moody is such a fucking effort.
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Jzone » 1 February 2020, 04:11

Self-pity and misery can be a form of narcissism, and not the best that narcissism has to offer by far. If you don't want to heal, don't expect anything to get better. I couldn't raise my interest to read that long blog post.
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Magic J » 1 February 2020, 17:50

I thought it did have a bit of a Notes from Underground vibe. Could be good commentary, with a bit of work.
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby mxguy01 » 1 February 2020, 18:12

Jzone wrote:Self-pity and misery can be a form of narcissism, and not the best that narcissism has to offer by far. If you don't want to heal, don't expect anything to get better. I couldn't raise my interest to read that long blog post.


There really was no need to go any farther then the title of the post to see what needs worked on. Sure, some people plain just don't have it in them. However, it's likely to be better to dig a deeper to try to find that person that does. Wish the OP the best in that.
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby NobodySpecial » 2 February 2020, 06:23

It may be an old cliche, but it seems appropriate here:

"When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, you'll finally decided to make changes."...

I will note that people in general are much more tolerant of young people with problems, because it seems to be human nature to help the young as most of us have been there in one way or another. However, your bio says you are 43. Yes you are way younger than me, but you are at a point in your life where you are going to find fewer people who will give you the time of day if you continue your preferred course of attitudes.

Maybe another analogy would be the boy who cried wolf. It will get to the point where no one will listen any more because you come across as having no sincere desire to better your situation. Imagine one day that you really might need a hug because some thing REALLY had devastated you. You can write off caring from women because you have defecto stated your misogynist attitudes. You can write off most males that don't make your "pretty boy" standards. A hug is a simply a hug. I'm not a big hugger myself, but if someone needs me to hug them for some reason, I'm not going to put on some condescending act that they are beneath me to get that close.

Note, I myself have been pretty much of a loner. I had to learn for myself that if I have a problem "I" for the most part have to fix it MYSELF. I realized it was time to stop bothering others about my problems. If something troubles me, address it and move on. That isn't about having a superior intellect, but maturity that such is how life works.

I'm sure I've probably said this before, but you are WAY too much into your own head. If you want to feel emotionally better, then you need to get out of your own head. Do something nice for others. You should also do something nice just to do it. Help a woman, and don't dismiss her because she is of some yucky gender. Help a man who needs help, and don't limit it to your pretty boy type that you are attracted to. Also note that if it is a gay guy, you may not be HIS cup of tea either. Plus there isn't one mold for gay men. Gay "camp" that you seem to refer to, is something more common in urban gay ghettos. I live in a more rural area, and I don't know a damn gay man that acts that way. Most rural gay guys couldn't possibly survive in such a setting and act like a swishy femboi.

I have also seen from another forum with a gay section, that many who want to act like a woman when they "suck cock", etc. Most are str8 men who freak out if two manly men get it on. So to satisfy their cock craze, they either disguise themselves as a woman or only have sex with penises if the other person comes across as a woman. Quite frankly, I'd rather have sex with a bonafide woman than one of these fake fem dudes. Quite frankly they look ridiculous -- especially when they are my age or older and dress up like they think they are plausibly passing as a 25 year old hooker. Perhaps they haven't seen an eye doctor in decades for the correct lenses....
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Eryx » 3 February 2020, 00:14

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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Capt._Trips » 3 February 2020, 00:38

NobodySpecial wrote:It may be an old cliche, but it seems appropriate here:

"When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, you'll finally decided to make changes."...


Not this guy. His post are the exact same everytime since he joined. He has no want to try and change or even try something different. I'm tired of hearing him bitch about it tbh.

He thinks he's a special type of person and no one in the world has ever felt like he could. So he repeats it over and over again.
Imo if he's not willing to help himself i really dont care how he feels.
I didn't even open the blog because i already know its the same shit he comes here every few months saying.

I don't like being mean but this guy is just a negative person who wants to get as many other people down as he can.
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby Magic J » 3 February 2020, 00:42

Capt._Trips wrote:I don't like being mean but this guy is just a negative person who wants to get as many other people down as he can.

Had to up my dose of Prozac after finishing the blog post. :(
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Re: When You're Lonely and Have No One to Blame But You

Unread postby EleniDoSorto66 » 4 February 2020, 02:16

Some good did come out of reading your otherwise unfortunate and depressing, though completely unmitigated in it's authenticity and display of human emotion, personal blog: I've suffered a recent breakup with my boyfriend, whom I've known since I was 10 - essentially like family. And after reading your blog, I feel less depressed about my current situation and more positive for my future. And it helped me to just learn to let things go.

Also, why do you focus on your physical appearance so much? I understand the concern and appreciate your unwavering ability to throw bullshit up and call it for what it is. But you're not even ugly, except maybe with how you feel about yourself.
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