Who are you out to?

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Blondie993 » 7 January 2013, 02:37

I came out in a National Newspaper interview- only appropriate considering I'm a LGBTQ activist for mutiple community and youth development projects. It was two years ago, during the launch of a GBT Men safe sex campaign that I had helped create.
There was a bit of a backstory as to the reason why I came out when I did, but it gaave me an excuse to brush off haters- who can legit think Fag is an insult after you've outed yourself to an entire country? :P
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby jhaury » 7 January 2013, 02:40

I am out to pretty much everyone but my Dad and extended family.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Welp » 7 January 2013, 23:55

I'm out to pretty much everyone, I live in a small town so pretty much everyone knows I'm into guys at least. Only my boyfriend knows about my gender issues though.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Jami » 8 January 2013, 14:54

Everyone knows. I've been out for over three years now. :) It's not a problem to anyone.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Roman » 9 January 2013, 05:22

Very, very few. Nobody I talk to regularly really. It'll be fine though since I'm just going to wait till I turn straight and not worry about it.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby acpro » 9 January 2013, 05:40

I'm out to everyone I know socially. At work it depends. I'm looking for a new job and I expect to go into that new job as Out. I am no longer hiding anything from anyone. I wasn't out at my past job because I had not came out officially to anyone when I started. Although, when people asked I told them. For now on, I will either tell them straight up or they can ask. Its not a big deal. Its not something I will hide anymore.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby chattydanny » 12 January 2013, 04:27

Told me best girl mate tonight whilst under the influence of illegal substances, no biggie.

It was funny because we were talking about what the future lies in store for me and she was saying bla bla bla 'with a girl' and I said wait, 'umm... surely by now you know I am a homosex.' She took it well, the world didn't fall apart like I thought it would a while back.

She's a goodun.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby FuturePoliceOfficer92 » 13 January 2013, 11:01

Well i’ve been fighting this a long time, no one personally knows (well i haven’t came out to anyone). By looking at me you would not know, but at times i do throw out hints, i get very touchy with my guy friends but they think nothing of it because when i do it (smack on the ass) they do it to (hand over the shoulder a lot)….ect also i say things on fb that would through a hint or two

i have a Christian family and really don’t think i can, and even to friends it scares me.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Mr. Awkward » 13 January 2013, 20:09

I personally am out to most of my friends and my sister. After my first boyfriend, they all kinda found out, and they were cool with it. Most of my new friends and my parents don't know though. I never talk about it unless it comes up in conversation and someone blatantly asks "Are you a homosexual?" I guess I don't immediately come across as gay (though I'm by no means the manliest of men :P ) But if someone asks, I have no problem confirming that I do indeed "play for the other team."

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Roman wrote:...It'll be fine though since I'm just going to wait till I turn straight and not worry about it.

^ Lol how do you plan on pulling THAT one out of the hat?
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby SpaceOctopus » 13 January 2013, 20:40

Roman wrote:It'll be fine though since I'm just going to wait till I turn straight and not worry about it.


I had the same strategy some years back! Worked brilliantly.

chattydanny wrote:Told me best girl mate tonight


Was this the first time you've said that to someone? In either way, happy for you mate!

I'm out to most of my friends. I mean I haven't had a discussion about it with all of them, I just kind of assume that it's common knowledge. But then again, every time I do have a conversation where this comes up, they insist that they had no clue. So I'm not really sure how many are aware of it. And to be honest, I really don't care. it doesn't affect our friendship in any way so I don't feel the need to specifically bring it up.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Viro » 14 January 2013, 03:17

My friends and family, as well as the acquaintances that have asked.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby rawss. » 15 January 2013, 15:04

Nobody doesn't know I'm a raving homo
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby SpaceOctopus » 15 January 2013, 19:17

rawss. wrote:Nobody doesn't know I'm a raving homo


Your double negative makes me unsure if everyone knows or no one knows. In either case, I'm going to have to advise you to rave harder.

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby rawss. » 15 January 2013, 22:17

SpaceOctopus wrote:
rawss. wrote:Nobody doesn't know I'm a raving homo


Your double negative makes me unsure if everyone knows or no one knows. In either case, I'm going to have to advise you to rave harder.

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English has never been my strong point. Shame it's my only spoken language really. Yes everyone knows and yes I will rave harder
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby MissingPiece » 15 January 2013, 22:52

I'm out to my parents, sister, friends, and anyone who asks. It's nobody's business but my own, so I don't feel obligated to tell anyone unless I know them well, and sexuality comes up in conversation, in which case I mention it as nonchalantly as possible if asked. Because, at the end of the day, it's not really a big deal, so why make a big production out of it?
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby GBR89 » 18 January 2013, 03:28

I'm out to just a handful of friends. My family would accept me, but they're extremely religious and I can't imagine the emotional trauma that it'd put them through to know.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby koshka » 18 January 2013, 21:36

'Officially' I'm out to my sister, a few close colleagues and friends.

Unofficially I'm out to most extended family and everyone else at work. I've never actually told them I'm gay, but I don't hide it and nor do I deny it if they ask.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Oscarsome » 19 January 2013, 07:03

Out to everyone who I care to be out to (parents, friends), except my brothers. But it's cool, I'm thinking of telling them soon here. I've always hated how you never are done coming out. You're stuck in a perpetual closet....
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Voodoothunder » 19 January 2013, 12:48

2 of my friends know. No one else.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Hadrian » 22 January 2013, 06:52

Another friend as of last week.
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