Who are you out to?

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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 22 January 2019, 23:31

WTF? Are so many people messed up in the head...
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby erti » 22 January 2019, 23:32

a Hillary Clinton look a like.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Shaved-Nudist » 23 January 2019, 00:11

Just with my three gay nudist friends.
Try living nude!
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby LostGuy94 » 24 January 2019, 09:44

Only told a few friends about me being gay, luckily the responses have gone alright so far although that's mostly because a lot of my friends are actually gay themselves which can have some benefits if you get what I mean? :D

Whilst I am fine with telling friends that I am gay, I honestly can't bring myself to tell the family about it, whilst from what I can tell that it likely wouldn't go too badly, the thought of sitting them down and telling them is all too much. What doesn't help me is my brother is also gay so I fear some of the reactions to people finding out both of us are that way inclined.

Fear some would make a big deal if I came out, some may even go to the lengths of throwing me a party in celebration which I don't want as I somewhat prefer a quiet life allowing me to just get on with what I want/have to do.

Something I have noticed is vast majority of people I know seem to think I'm straight, don't know if this is just considered a safer response just to assume straight and be corrected than if you assumed gay and turns out to be straight. I do think that I actually hide it rather well even though I don't go to great lengths most of the time to do so, I don't come across as particularly camp and don't fulfil some of the gay stereotypes which seems to throw some people off.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Koftruecross » 11 February 2019, 16:00

I don't fit into many of the gay stereotypes either. And I think that's okay. I think it's a bit more complicated than what the media portrays it to be. Also I believe there is nothing wrong with telling people you are gay on a NEED TO KNOW BASIS. If you feel they don't need to know then don't tell them. It's hard to do but don't let other people pressure you into doing something you are NOT comfortable with. You are young and that is when it is the most difficult. But as time goes on it will be easier. I promise.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby iBttm » 19 February 2019, 11:41

Any guy that is about to stick his cock in my mouth and not asking to recip because they "know."
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby mxguy01 » 28 February 2019, 16:12

Yesterday I told a co-worker. We essentially work as teams/pairs as sales/technical. I had a couple priors that were not so hot. To justify that statement, one got fired for falsifying expenses to go on a personal trip. Anyways the new guy is pretty good. Been a while but mostly I've had/have pretty awesome teammates as a rule. We been hitting it off pretty good. We even did a ski day together. We seem to have a similar views about living life, etc. Last night we were out to dinner and I spilled the fact that I'm gay. He continues to amaze me because he didn't do the "that's nice, now let's talk about something else" but rather the opposite. A few questions in he even asked if I had someone. Then of course given my history the need to correct the assumption that being gay is something new for me. He kept the conversation going down that path for a while. It was a really good night.

Afterwards I was thinking. I've worked here for 20 years now. Many are and been supporting of me both professionally and personally. I've come to realize these are work related friends so to say. 20 years is a long time and I realize there are quite a few I can, and in a way should, tell them I'm gay. If I do that then I'll just be completely out at work IMO. No need to tell anyone else and no cares about anyone who knows.

BTW my work make told me that I could trust him. I let him know that my keeping a secret is something I'll never impose upon someone else. Told him he knows the deal, I trust him. But at the same time if it slipped I really would/could care less anymore. Work is now a short term deal for me. There is no downside. It's time there.

And now that leaves moto, just at the track as I'm out at trail a bit. So that means either an unintentional collision of my lives or eventually I'll just do it purposely. Just a matter of time I think. Then it's done. It will be the end of the closet for me if I can get it done. Soon I think.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Stephen68 » 13 March 2019, 01:01

Only out to my sister surprisingly she is okay with it
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Delishes » 17 March 2019, 03:42

Only to people whom i had sex with
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Jryski » 6 May 2019, 12:33

I don't go around telling people but if they ask I'll tell them. Except family and family friends. They're all deeply religious (christians) I made the mistake of telling my mom and stepfather and they kinda ruined me.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Martian » 6 May 2019, 19:32

I told a few friends but one of them is gay. The other one was very very supportive. She told me she was disappointing because I thought she wouldnt understand. She also helped me a lot to go through some difficulties.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby erti » 6 May 2019, 19:39

Well, if people ask, I tend to tell them i'm bisexual (I might as well say pansexual but I say bisexual is something everyone knows what it is. It doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to pans xD). I told the guy my moms friend tried to hook me up with that was like "oh really? That's not a bad thing. There's nothing wrong with it unless a gay man tries to flirt with me. I'd put him in his place." However, him saying that is a turnoff and one of the main reasons i didn't like him. Now he knows what it feels when straight men flirt with women. Plus because someone is gay it doesn't mean they're going to flirt with you because you're a man. Ignorance man ignorance.
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Re: Who are you out to?

Unread postby Closetfreak » 12 May 2019, 19:34

Out of all the people i knew before my first encounter with a man, just the one guy who i talked to and was my first experience. Now since then, most of the gay guys i have come across.
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